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Why in the world would someone in their right mind raise someone else's kid?
I raised my husband's two girls. Their mother was in prison when I got on the scene, and then she didn't have time for them when she finally got out 7 years later, and now she's back in prison for the same thing. Not exactly mama material.
I wouldn't have a problem raising the child as my own. I would however have a problem with my bf having sex with his ex while on a break. I thought "on a break" was to do some soul searching and evaluate the relationship, not a ticket to go screw around. I guess, I'd take the child and dump the bf.
Highly unlikely I ever find myself in this situation, but without a second thought, yes, I would raise "someone else's" kid if I wanted to be with the kid's father. I'm kind of a "just go with it" type of person. I like kids, even if I'm not planning on being a parent for now. And life happens. It just does.
If I wanted to be with someone and they came with a kid, that wouldn't factor into my decision to be with them at all unless they were a bad parent. My favorite ex was a great boyfriend and a terrible father. I walked away from him for good, mainly because of that. I'd have been happy to help him raise his son, but I wasn't going to do it if I was going to be overcompensating for or being undermined by the person who was supposed to be most invested in the child's development.
I raised my husband's two girls. Their mother was in prison when I got on the scene, and then she didn't have time for them when she finally got out 7 years later, and now she's back in prison for the same thing. Not exactly mama material.
Ya but the kids were already there. The mom didn't get prego while you and your husband were on a break.
Men, would you stay with your girlfriend/wife and raise another man's child if she got pregnant by one of her ex boyfriends while both of you were on a break? How would you feel about having sex with, going to doctor appointments with, and sitting at the hospital with her while your woman is giving birth to someone else's child?
Women, if you could not stand your man's ex and he got her pregnant while you both were on a break and allowed to date others, could you bring your self to raise his ex's kid as you're own if the mother gave the child up to your man?
In both of these situations, both of you already have a long history together and also have kids of your own together... Could you stay or would you leave just based on this event?
Short answer: No.
I'm male.
By the way, you made it messy with a scenario including another woman. Equivalent should be having a guy making other woman pregnant while being on the break from his relationship with the other woman, but the difference is also that the biological mother would gain custody by default unless she's having serious issues that should disqualify her.
Last edited by nald; 08-06-2013 at 03:09 PM..
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Btw can we just say these people are probably scum anyway? I mean who gets someone pregnant or gets pregnant during a "break" instead of using birth control (or being abstinent).
Yea that's the difference. I wouldn't have a problem dating someone who had behaved children.
Your question was not whether the kids were behaved or not.
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