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When it comes to online dating, most women seem to think winks are lame and a sign of laziness. But try to understand it from the man's perspective. On most dating sites, men outnumber women. Women get bombarded with more messages than they can deal with and men know this. They know that simply sending a form letter won't cut it. She'll know that you send the same message to every woman. Instead, the man will take the time to craft a well written email. But after sending it, he nears nothing. Now imagine the man does this for other women he's interested in. All that time spent composing thoughtful emails and nothing to show for it. Now you know why men resort to winking. Not because he's lazy, though many men are. But because he's tired of spending his time writing emails and not getting any replies. I'm not necessarily saying I agree, just that I see where these guys are coming from.
Don't spend time carefully crafting emails and don't send form letters and don't wink.
Instead, limit yourself to contacting a max of 5 women per month. With each of those women, read every word of her profile, spend some time considering whether you are what she is looking for (rather than just vice versa). If so, spend a max of 2 minutes composing a brief message.
Before you do any of that, make sure your profile includes a few paragraphs of text, photos of your face and body, and no photos showing vehicles.
I don't see a wink as a sign of laziness, but a sign that he's not that interested or he has fear of rejection. The rejection hurts less if there is less "investment." The guys that are really interested in hearing back from you will send an email.
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