Friend said 5 years and he's out...... (calling, advice, clothes, average)
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Being around your kids while making selfish choices, and putting them through hell, is not a preferrable option to seeing them 1/2 the time in a calm household where you're happy and healthy.
What if your a selfish person? If you dont look out for yourself no one else will, then when you do your "selfish"
If he wants to be around his kids, he can ask for full custody, and support them himself. Problem solved.
What makes you think he would get full custody? His wife is a SAHM who doesn't have any drug or abuse issues so his odds of getting full custody are nil. At best he can get the kids every weekend but its difficult being a weekend dad.
Dont know if it was posted before but why does dad want out so bad?
I don't know if it was posted either, but to me it really doesn't matter.
People who want out of bad marriages should EARN their way out of them, especially when there are young kids involved.
When a child knows one parent truly hates the other, they feel that pain personally.
To a child's way of thinking, if you hate my mom/dad you must hate me too because there is so much of mom/dad in me
When people stop being so self-absorbed and learn to put the emotional needs of their kids ahead of all the BS involved in breaking up a marriage, the whole world will be a lot better off.
I don't know if it was posted either, but to me it really doesn't matter.
People who want out of bad marriages should EARN their way out of them, especially when there are young kids involved.
When a child knows one parent truly hates the other, they feel that pain personally.
To a child's way of thinking, if you hate my mom/dad you must hate me too because there is so much of mom/dad in me
When people stop being so self-absorbed and learn to put the emotional needs of their kids ahead of all the BS involved in breaking up a marriage, the whole world will be a lot better off.
Unfortunatly it does not work like that, the actions of one spouse can drive the other to wanting out, you cant abuse someone and then give them the monster label when they want out. This guy has to be REALLY unhappy to want out this bad. Sorry people care about their own mental health and well being, its not always all about the kids all the time, if the parents cant keep themselves healthy then they cant do their kids any good.
Kind of like putting on your own air mask first before assisting children.
Asking and getting full custody can amount to 2 entirely different outcomes especially in divorce kangaroo court.
So use mediation. Create your own agreement. Don't put yourself at the mercy of the courts.
My ex and I were plenty mad at each other during our divorce but had no problem sitting across from each other with a professional mediator to come up with a fair custody and settlement agreement that was rubber stamped by a judge. Why do so many people ignore this option?
So use mediation. Create your own agreement. Don't put yourself at the mercy of the courts.
My ex and I were plenty mad at each other during our divorce but had no problem sitting across from each other with a professional mediator to come up with a fair custody and settlement agreement that was rubber stamped by a judge. Why do so many people ignore this option?
Im sure they do but if the woman is mad enough she can force it through the courts and get her way. Also the guy ends up eating the bulk of the legal costs as all the woman has to do is fill out forms and the guy has to defend himself. Once the court finds out your a "poor" woman with a minor child the guy will eat the bulk of the legal fees trying to defend himself, if there are no kids then this might work.
What makes you think he would get full custody? His wife is a SAHM who doesn't have any drug or abuse issues so his odds of getting full custody are nil. At best he can get the kids every weekend but its difficult being a weekend dad.
If she agrees to it, he'll get it, if he wants it. She may be a SAHM now, but she'll have to get a job to support herself. Some women welcome the opportunity to work and go back to school without having to juggle kids as well. They can also get joint custody, which is very common these days.
It's CD-R, people are grinding their axes. They're not interested in reality, in options that work, or how much the courts have changed in the last 50 years.
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They deserve so much better than these parents.
