Two questions regarding a girl I'm hanging out with (dating, boyfriend, kiss)
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I met a girl a month or so a go at a bar, she was with her boyfriend at the time. Last week we started chatting on Facebook, and turns out they broke up because he was an *******. Later that week we got a drink after work together, flirted a bit, conversation got sexual, and kissed on the cheek.
Tonight we hung out again, and she said she really likes me, but just got out of a relationship and wants to get her life in order before we hang out more than friends. I said, "that's cool, i'll respect that. but i dig you, just so you know." And she replied, "that is exactly what I wanted to hear, thank you. i like you too."
We hung out and she touched me a few times, and laughed, let me kiss her on the cheek again. She made a joke about us having kids, too.
My question is two fold:
1) How should I play this? Keep hanging out with her, and let her sort herself out, but be respectful?
2) Why does she always try to justify herself to me? She might have 2 or 3 drinks and say, "hey just so you know I'm not a drunk" or "I'm not sloppy." Or, "I just have to text me friend, please don't think I'm being rude, okay?" etc. ALWAYS justifying herself to me. Thoughts?
The justifying probably comes from her routine that she got into with her ex. He was probably always making her explain herself. The "im not sloppy" is just coming from her worrying about how she looks in front of you because she actually cares what you think.
1) If you want her, don't stick around and be a rebound. Let her know that you aren't waiting for her and that if she wants you, its not going to be on her own time.
Regardless of how you view it, you are a rebound as we speak. She needs the reassurance that shes pretty and worth something, and you are a feeding ground.
Distance and time dude.
Last edited by Figuremeout; 08-28-2013 at 11:10 PM..
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The justifying probably comes from her routine that she got into with her ex. He was probably always making her explain herself. The "im not sloppy" is just coming from her worrying about how she looks in front of you because she actually cares what you think.
1) If you want her, don't stick around and be a rebound. Let her know that you aren't waiting for her and that if she wants you, its not going to be on her own time.
Regardless of how you view it, you are a rebound as we speak. She needs to reassurance that shes pretty and worth something, and you are a feeding ground.
she started getting feelings for me, and said that we can't be intimate anymore, because she doesn't want those feelings to grow any more than they already are, because our age difference.
I met a girl a month or so a go at a bar, she was with her boyfriend at the time. Last week we started chatting on Facebook, and turns out they broke up because he was an *******. Later that week we got a drink after work together, flirted a bit, conversation got sexual, and kissed on the cheek.
Tonight we hung out again, and she said she really likes me, but just got out of a relationship and wants to get her life in order before we hang out more than friends. I said, "that's cool, i'll respect that. but i dig you, just so you know." And she replied, "that is exactly what I wanted to hear, thank you. i like you too."
We hung out and she touched me a few times, and laughed, let me kiss her on the cheek again. She made a joke about us having kids, too.
My question is two fold:
1) How should I play this? Keep hanging out with her, and let her sort herself out, but be respectful?
2) Why does she always try to justify herself to me? She might have 2 or 3 drinks and say, "hey just so you know I'm not a drunk" or "I'm not sloppy." Or, "I just have to text me friend, please don't think I'm being rude, okay?" etc. ALWAYS justifying herself to me. Thoughts?
It sounds like she is kind of insecure and maybe that is why she explains herself a lot.
I would do number 1) Keep hanging out with her, and let her sort herself out, but be respectful? Do this for sure. Only she will know when she is ready enough to start dating and getting serious about someone again. Be patient and respectful.
Is one of the reasons she may justify herself around me, because she likes me and wants me to think highly of her, or am I reading into it too much?
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