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My BF and I were riding our motorcycles about a month ago. I wrecked mine and broke my knee and shoulder. After knee surgery (plate and pin), I am in a wheelchair for about 3 months.
He wants to go on a 5 day motorcycle trip with our club and have his mother come to babysit me. He invited his mother to stay with me for 2 weeks, part of that time he will be on his motorcycle trip. IDK why I feel like this is the wrong time for him to leave me, but on the other hand, his motorcycle is important to him.
My BF and I were riding our motorcycles about a month ago. I wrecked mine and broke my knee and shoulder. After knee surgery (plate and pin), I am in a wheelchair for about 3 months.
He wants to go on a 5 day motorcycle trip with our club and have his mother come to babysit me. He invited his mother to stay with me for 2 weeks, part of that time he will be on his motorcycle trip. IDK why I feel like this is the wrong time for him to leave me, but on the other hand, his motorcycle is important to him.
Any thoughts on how to handle this?
Cachexi
How old are you two? How long have you been dating? Do you live together or separately?
I'm sorry to hear of your accident, and I hope you heal well and soon!
It sounds like he's trying to be thoughtful by arranging for his mom to look after you. Honestly, as much as you're the injured person and adjusting to being in a wheelchair, him suddenly being a caregiver for 3 months may take a toll on him, and possibly your relationship. I would let him know you'll miss him, appreciate his arranging for help for you, and that you look forward to hearing about the trip when he's back.
We have separate places, but almost always stay together. We have been together for 1 year. We are in our 40s
I think the timing is little off, but on the other hand he is thinking about you by having his mother come and stay in the meantime-if you are comfortable with her doing so.
I would let him go. He's your boyfriend, not your husband. I think it's probably a nice way of saying thank you to him for helping you out during this time.
We have separate places, but almost always stay together. We have been together for 1 year. We are in our 40s
If he's in his 40s, he should know better than to do that to you. His buddies will always be there, and there will be other trips. You, however, will only be incapacitated for a few months. Your situation is temporary, and he should have the good graces to tell his buddies, "Next time."
Let him go. Be a good sport about it. Find a new boyfriend, unless you are fine with a relationship that stays casual.
It's not going to work to try to guilt him about it, or to nag him, or even to ask him not to go. But he is not all that into you. He's more than casual and a lot less than serious about you. If that is what you are happy with, then all's fine.
If you want more, move on. You won't get it there.
Thank you for your thoughts. I believe you are right...It may be my issue since I was supposed to go on that trip and now cannot do so.
sure it is, it is only human to feel slighted...so understand, it's ok to feel that way.
However, let him go, and always remember, you don't own him, or anyone, when your in a relationship, it is so important to have "me" time, regardless. you go away with the girls, he goes away with the guys. But you have to allow your mate freedom, and if there is love and trust, it comes very easy to do so. If not, find another mate!
But to be together 24/7 is not healthy, maybe for the woman, but a man needs his space, so encourage each other to go on weekend get aways, with friends. you'll come back refreshed and so much more wealthy inside for it.
Hugs to you and hope you feel better very soon.
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