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on how the dynamic of a relationship will turn out? or is it really a case of "if he likes you, then when you do it, doesn't matter"?
Just curious. I know the 1st date sex question has come up a lot on here, but what about not having sex on the first date...but maybe the 2nd/3rd?
SOMETIMES having sex too early is a mistake.
SOMETIMES two people are so attracted to one another that it will only enhance the newfound relationship.
But in general, I think having sex before you've really taken the time to get to know someone is pretty risky.
Now, some take the risk and it pays off just fine.
Others take the risk and get burned if they were hoping for a real relationship to develop.
People need to learn how to trust their gut instincts, to fine tune them, so that they can make the best choices for themselves when it comes to trusting others.
SOMETIMES two people are so attracted to one another that it will only enhance the newfound relationship.
But in general, I think having sex before you've really taken the time to get to know someone is pretty risky.
Now, some take the risk and it pays off just fine.
Others take the risk and get burned if they were hoping for a real relationship to develop.
People need to learn how to trust their gut instincts, to fine tune them, so that they can make the best choices for themselves when it comes to trusting others.
Makes sense. that's pretty much how I see it. Was curious how others see it.
I think the problem with sex isn't in relationship that would have worked anyway, the problem happens when it muddles things in a relationship that never would have worked. There are hormones released during sex that helps you to bond with a person. The sex early on can overwhelm good decision making that might lead you to not stay in a bad relationship. That bonding from sex can feel like love when it isn't.
Again....
Timing of Sex has no bearing IMO, and from what I have heard from friends.
If a guy was going to dump you anyway, or if all he wanted was sex in the first place, then he was going to dump you anyway.
Sex is just something two people do. And many people do it pretending to want a relationship, when they really don't.
However, I wouldn't recommend sleeping with a guy on a first date unless you as a woman have a lot to offer a guy. But, if the guy reeeeeeaaaaallly likes you, sex on first date isnt a dealbreaker, but you better be awesome enough for him to want to stick around.
I think the problem with sex isn't in relationship that would have worked anyway, the problem happens when it muddles things in a relationship that never would have worked. There are hormones released during sex that helps you to bond with a person. The sex early on can overwhelm good decision making that might lead you to not stay in a bad relationship. That bonding from sex can feel like love when it isn't.
None of this applies to men. It's not a poker game with us like it is with women. From a men's perspective, if she want's to shag = likes me in the "right way" and is attracted to me. No sex within the first 3 dates = probably wasting your time/playing games/not worth it anyway = dump!
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