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With a new school year ahead going back on the 23rd of this month Time to get back to the grind. I do not know how guys and girls date when working full time and taking two college classes? For me I rather but my nose in a book than putting my nose in well never minds. One thing that is for sure is finish College prerequisites and they are not going to be easy this year.
I am going full blown hunger games on my competition this year and am willing to give up everything to get a 3.8/4.0 this year. That means if I have togive up dating , friends , family , TV, Xbox ,drinking, partying, sports, working out , meeting new people, sleep , sex, going out , and everything I once enjoyed to get to my goals. Living on 3-4 hours of sleep working until I pass out so be it.
This program I am going for is very competitive and some do not have what it takes to get in. One has to want it as bad as one wants to breathe. I am not the only one trying to do what I doing so I have to out work them.
OK now is it a bad idea to become emotionally unavailable and not date? In other words just never ask a girl out on a date? I feel like I should get out there and meet new people and get a bigger social circle. What do I do if I meet a girl I like and want to ask out? I know I should play it as lets hang out and see what happens but I have to tell her school is first right now. I cannot be hanging out with a girl 24/7 when I have studying to do.
I do not know what to do it not like I am 18/20 and have more time. I am turn 30 soon and never had a long term GF before. Due to many factors, I have been pretty far behind the curve when it comes to relationships and sex. Did casual dating a few times when I was in high school/college (as in we go out 1-2 times just for fun, never get physical at all) but didn't date in any form for most of my teen years due to personal issues (mostly due to massive shyness/social-anxiety problems) through school, I was socially awkward and never fit in with anyone's circle. No one would invite me in to their group.
I've managed to turn things around a bit and can talk to anyone. I am a different person now I just had to look at this way no one cares. I did not date until college and went on about 10 to 12 dates with different woman so asking a girl out is not my problem.
The longest I have dated the same girl was probably for about 6 months or so and it wasn't even anything serious. It was a FB kind of thing so when she was done it was over. This is my only sexual partner I know sad for my age but it is what it is.
So, I am at a fork in the road I can give up on dating for now or I can get back in the dating game.
Seeing that I am 30 I should not postpone life /dating but I do need to get good grades.
Do you think if I told a girl hey look I like you and enjoy spending time with you and all. It just that I need to study my tail off and want to take things slow and see what happens. I will make time for you
we just need to make time for each other.
I do not want to lose out a girl that might be the one just because I was to focus on school.
When I feel confident and up beat I notice woman smile at me more and flirt with me more. I have been filling well as of late and cannot wait to go back to school.
My main question is would a girl understand that I am working towards something and can’t be free at a drop of a hat all the time? I will make time for a girl but she has to meet me ½ way sort of speak.
i am tired of being lonely i be single for so long .
Date now!
When you get out of school you will be amazed at how much more difficult it is to meet women.
Many people think, when I graduate and get a job, meeting women will be easy!
But for some people it is not, and it sounds like you are not one of those guys that date easily. Therefore, I really really recommend dating now while in college, and there are women you can talk with and date in a non-aggressive atmosphere.
You will seriously kick yourself once you graduate and realize the opportunities you passed on by not dating in college. It will never he easier to date than it is while in college.
But how to work, take classes, and date at the same time? I would recommend letting dating dip into your social time. That means that if you have the option to hang with friends, or go on a date, GO ON THE DATE. Every time. But do keep some sort of social schedule. Friends are important as well, but don't kid yourself to thinking your friends are more important that dating. They should have equal priority, if not value dating a little bit more.
School advice: if you have to work that hard to get in a program or to keep up your grades, you might be in the wrong field. For example, I wouldn't waste time on statistics if I wasn't good at math.
Undergraduate classes shouldn't be that difficult. That being said, consider doing a work-study program to supplement your funding. They're often more realistic for full-time students.
Dating: no reason not to date if someone comes along. The key to success is to avoid the hard partying/drinking that so many students enjoy. If you're already academically challenged, no need to impair yourself further. Dating is not that exhausting if you do it right.
School advice: if you have to work that hard to get in a program or to keep up your grades, you might be in the wrong field. For example, I wouldn't waste time on statistics if I wasn't good at math.
Undergraduate classes shouldn't be that difficult. That being said, consider doing a work-study program to supplement your funding. They're often more realistic for full-time students.
Dating: no reason not to date if someone comes along. The key to success is to avoid the hard partying/drinking that so many students enjoy. If you're already academically challenged, no need to impair yourself further. Dating is not that exhausting if you do it right.
This is very good advice.
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I am going full blown hunger games on my competition this year and am willing to give up everything to get a 3.8/4.0 this year. That means if I have togive up dating , friends , family , TV, Xbox ,drinking, partying, sports, working out , meeting new people, sleep , sex, going out , and everything I once enjoyed to get to my goals. Living on 3-4 hours of sleep working until I pass out so be it.
You said it there.
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Originally Posted by krieger00
I cannot be hanging out with a girl 24/7 when I have studying to do.
Of course you can't.
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Originally Posted by krieger00
I do not want to lose out a girl that might be the one just because I was to focus on school.
Oy vey. There will always be women. Get your schooling done. That's far more important. FWIW, my son is in college now, in his junior year, and broke up with his GF last year because of the demands of his curriculum. She completely understood. They got back together over the summer, and though they are together this year at school, they have an agreement that their schoolwork absolutely comes first.
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. Its difficult, but can be done. But if you have some stiff attitude about it then, no you can't.
