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I was in this situation for a couple years. I was helping my father who had advanced stage cancer and dementia for 2 years. I moved out of state to help take care of him. He passed away and I moved back to where I was living before. Now I have to explain the last 2 years to dates. It's uncomfortable to talk to people I don't know about this. But it's also odd to not talk about the last two years. It just seems too personal to bring up on a first or second date and at the same time I don't want to say it and be a downer. I guess I don't know how to fit it in to convo, without making the date depressing.
How is it brought up? If you asked a girl out she would have no idea that you had not dated in 2 years unless the subject was brought up. If you are in a position where you have to say something about the past 2 yrs. you could simply say you were caretaking a relative and leave it at that, no need for any drawn out story at that point.
Yeah, why would you need to tell someone when you last dated? It's not an employment application, where you have to list your dating resume and explain all gaps.
I was in this situation for a couple years. I was helping my father who had advanced stage cancer and dementia for 2 years. I moved out of state to help take care of him. He passed away and I moved back to where I was living before. Now I have to explain the last 2 years to dates. It's uncomfortable to talk to people I don't know about this. But it's also odd to not talk about the last two years. It just seems too personal to bring up on a first or second date and at the same time I don't want to say it and be a downer. I guess I don't know how to fit it in to convo, without making the date depressing.
You don't have to explain it until it comes up naturally.
What you've been doing is a lot like being at home with a baby. When someone is completely dependent on you, you can't just go out to the club every night.
In fact, what you've been doing is honorable. It's not like you were incarcerated. If someone asks, just say something like, "I haven't dated in a while because I was the primary caregiver for my dad before he passed away."
You don't have to explain it until it comes up naturally.
What you've been doing is a lot like being at home with a baby. When someone is completely dependent on you, you can't just go out to the club every night.
In fact, what you've been doing is honorable. It's not like you were incarcerated. If someone asks, just say something like, "I haven't dated in a while because I was the primary caregiver for my dad before he passed away."
Only a jerk would see that as a negative.
Exactly. I did this for my mom when she was dying from cancer and when it did come up it wasn't a problem. If a woman had found it to be one it still wouldn't have been a problem because she wouldn't have been someone I wanted to be with.
I can't know your loss but I do know how painful it was to go through this process with my mom, I'm sorry.
I was in this situation for a couple years. I was helping my father who had advanced stage cancer and dementia for 2 years. I moved out of state to help take care of him. He passed away and I moved back to where I was living before. Now I have to explain the last 2 years to dates. It's uncomfortable to talk to people I don't know about this. But it's also odd to not talk about the last two years. It just seems too personal to bring up on a first or second date and at the same time I don't want to say it and be a downer. I guess I don't know how to fit it in to convo, without making the date depressing.
I don't think you should feel "obligated" to explain the last two years to your dates at all.
I was in this situation for a couple years. I was helping my father who had advanced stage cancer and dementia for 2 years. I moved out of state to help take care of him. He passed away and I moved back to where I was living before. Now I have to explain the last 2 years to dates. It's uncomfortable to talk to people I don't know about this. But it's also odd to not talk about the last two years. It just seems too personal to bring up on a first or second date and at the same time I don't want to say it and be a downer. I guess I don't know how to fit it in to convo, without making the date depressing.
No.
You don't.
Why do you feel that you have to?
I would think that since you feel the need to talk, you should be talking to a counselor, not your dates.
Dude, being with Dad in his last days is a noble act. Women love that kind of stuff.
She'll be like aaaaaaaaaaaaaaww, and you can bed her in the next date.
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