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This is similar to something else I brought up but not really the same thing in practice.
I am a somewhat flirty guy I'd say. If I'm talking to a new girl I'm probably going to flirt a little to see if she's interested. I tend to get numbers, break the "touch barrier" and whatnot when meeting new girls.
Most the time these girls probably think I'm hitting on them some but its not really blatant. For the most part its because I do this to every girl and so I'm not really interested in most of them. I'm sure a lot of these girls at least think I might be interested in them though. Honestly part of why I do this is to practice talking to/hitting on women. It is something I used to have trouble with.
So is that mean to them? Do they feel played? Would you feel played? I could probably ask them but that would be weird. If this is bad I could stop but I'd honestly rather not.
To give you an example of what I mean I've met a lot of girls where I complement them to get the conversation going. We then have some pointless banter. I touch her shoulder/hand/arm something appropriate. I get her number, and from that point on we're friends and I bring her parties and what not but I never really make any moves.
EDT: Also I'm not looking to hook up with any of these chicks or do some FWB deal. Its not my style and honestly, no offence to them, they aren't really attractive enough for me to want that and that's why they are my friend not my girlfriend.
Going the other way, I have known plenty of flirty women who are not necessarily hitting on guys they get a little flirty with. I would think they would understand the same happens in return.
Going the other way, I have known plenty of flirty women who are not necessarily hitting on guys they get a little flirty with. I would think they would understand the same happens in return.
Guilty. But for the record - I have kind of a flirty personality. I'm probably flirty with women, too. I've gotten better about it as I've gotten older but I just have a bubbly, giggly personality. And I'm also a touchy feely person.
Oh - but I didn't get people's phone numbers and such. Well, I used to when I was a teen but not since then.
This is similar to something else I brought up but not really the same thing in practice.
I am a somewhat flirty guy I'd say. If I'm talking to a new girl I'm probably going to flirt a little to see if she's interested. I tend to get numbers, break the "touch barrier" and whatnot when meeting new girls.
Most the time these girls probably think I'm hitting on them some but its not really blatant. For the most part its because I do this to every girl and so I'm not really interested in most of them. I'm sure a lot of these girls at least think I might be interested in them though. Honestly part of why I do this is to practice talking to/hitting on women. It is something I used to have trouble with.
So is that mean to them? Do they feel played? Would you feel played? I could probably ask them but that would be weird. If this is bad I could stop but I'd honestly rather not.
To give you an example of what I mean I've met a lot of girls where I complement them to get the conversation going. We then have some pointless banter. I touch her shoulder/hand/arm something appropriate. I get her number, and from that point on we're friends and I bring her parties and what not but I never really make any moves.
EDT: Also I'm not looking to hook up with any of these chicks or do some FWB deal. Its not my style and honestly, no offence to them, they aren't really attractive enough for me to want that and that's why they are my friend not my girlfriend.
Doesn't seem like a problem at all in my eyes. I sometimes get numbers just to prove it to myself lol
If you don't have any intention of dating them, I would not touch them or ask for their number. I think that's taking flirting too far and is misleading.
If you don't have any intention of dating them, I would not touch them or ask for their number. I think that's taking flirting too far and is misleading.
Ok, I do end up being some kind of friends with most these girls though. I will see them after I get their number, we're usually just not that close.
Ok, I do end up being some kind of friends with most these girls though. I will see them after I get their number, we're usually just not that close.
Do you think that might be because you misrepresented your intentions? If you're flirting and getting their number and then asking them to a party, they're going to think it's a date and that you're interested in them. When that doesn't pan out, are they going to want to stay in close contact with you?
If you don't have any intention of dating them, I would not touch them or ask for their number. I think that's taking flirting too far and is misleading.
I agree with this. Flirting with anyone is cool, but when you ask them out, or start touching them or even kiss them, that crosses the line, because the person at the point would really believe you are into them. But just being silly, kidding around and stuff like that...harmless fun.
Do you think that might be because you misrepresented your intentions? If you're flirting and getting their number and then asking them to a party, they're going to think it's a date and that you're interested in them. When that doesn't pan out, are they going to want to stay in close contact with you?
So they might think the party invite is a date? Interesting, I would never consider a party a date. I don't think I've ever done something I would consider a date with these girls, but maybe they thought it was. Though I usually turn it way down and they don't seem to be flirty with me at all after the first interaction. I mean I'm not coming on very strong in the first place, I'm not picking them up like bar chicks.
I'd say most the time if I've managed to get their number, and take them somewhere with friends then we end up being acquaintances. They are very rarely my close friends though, but that makes sense given we usually don't have all that much in common.
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