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My boyfriend and I got into an argument last night.
The reason for the argument isn't really important. But, I've noticed his response fits a profile whenever we argue: he's very passive aggressive.
Neither one of us raises our voices or ever yells, thankfully. However, while I"m more inclined to be honest and openly tell him how I feel (without name calling, trying to be mean, belittling, or condescending), he, though, is 1000% bonafide passive aggressive. He'll often times avoid my attempts to have a discussion whenever I want to talk about something that's bothering me (with respect to something he has done or is doing). He'll often say "you're being too sensitive," "ok, " "ok," and then eventually change the topic. The same behavior holds true if it's him that initiates the argument.
It's infuriating.
What's your "fighting" style? Are either you or your significant other passive aggressive?
What do you do to effectively communicate when you disagree with him/her?
I thought passive aggressive meant more or less doing things out of spite. Like, not directly confronting your significant other about an issue, but maybe deliberately letting their food get cold before giving it to them, etc. because you are upset.
In any case, my fighting style typically doesn't involve yelling, that's for sure.
You shouldn't really be having a "fighting style", as you put it. If the two of you are arguing and game-playing all the time, it just shows that you are not compatible together.
You shouldn't really be having a "fighting style", as you put it. If the two of you are arguing and game-playing all the time, it just shows that you are not compatible together.
Agreed.
My recent ex would refuse to talk through disagreements. I get that some people need to take space so they can revisit issues when cooler heads prevail, but he just wouldn't talk about things at all. It was almost like dealing with a child.
You shouldn't really be having a "fighting style", as you put it. If the two of you are arguing and game-playing all the time, it just shows that you are not compatible together.
Neither applies
. I termed it as such because people have certain behaviors when they argue or are stressed: some of us yell, some don't yell...some are confrontational...others do not...etc
That's kind of passive-aggressive, but it just sounds more like dismissive behavior to me.
Perhaps you're right. Maybe it's more dismissive than anything else.
But, I guess I perceive this behavior as how he deals with most confrontations...the reaction is the same whether it's coming from me, or from a co-worker, etc.
. I termed it as such because people have certain behaviors when they argue or are stressed: some of us yell, some don't yell...some are confrontational...others do not...etc
But you used the terms "whenever we argue" and "he'll often..." which suggests this is happening a lot.
Why you would want to stay with a guy who dismisses your issues makes no sense to me.
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