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Knowing 100% that someone doesn't want me instantly makes my blood run cold and I no longer want them anymore. Maybe it'll help you, OP, if you let go of any of your hope that you hold onto.
Thank you srjth. I think I am hold on to hope, that's why. Consciously I said I don't, but deep down, there's a part that hopes he'll call, that there will be something out of this eventually. You are right, I should just be strong and not hope anymore. Thank you!
It's crazy!!! I don't know how people do it. Okay, the title is a bit misleading, but it's not really about loving someone you can't have. It's about the feeling of "liking" "loving" or "falling" for someone and the feeling of the "unknown". Regardless of whether you can get that person or not is not an issue. In my case, I think he's way out of my league and is currently emotional unavailable. I can't move on and it's killing me. Not to mention, we flirted and had a great time together. I don't like having a crush on someone. I don't want to feel this way. Arghhh!
How d'you forget someone quickly? If you have any suggestions on how to not feel, I would be more than happy to listen (or in this case, read).
Hey, I'm in a similar boat. I hate when that happens. I try not to have a crush on someone. But sometimes, you just can't help it. Especially when that person goes out of the way for you. (in my case)
She has the prettiest face I ever seen. I try to manage my feelings whenever I'm around her. (Try not to be needy, I try to interact more from a stand point of giving to her as opposed to getting something from her, I know it doesn't make sense, but I'm a wreck and I'm okay with that)
Given my mindset, I normally would have been like, "She wouldn't give me a second look." And yet here I am spending 10 full minutes with her in a little interaction which she initiated.
Here's how it works for me. I see beauty, I decide to just go on with my business to not even entertain the thought of even seeing her again. She breaks the ice. I'm thinking "Okay, she's sweet."
She escalates it a little, I'm thinking, "Get that idea out of your head!!!" It goes to the next level and I'm like, "Okay, that did it, I have a crush!"
I'm pretty sure we're just friends. I'd be happy with a close friendship. There are other women...
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This reply is mostly to the title of the thread, and not so much the different scenario posted by the OP.
Ive been there, and have done that, and it's nothing short of a pure, insufferable hell...Perhaps most of it is self-induced? I don't know.
Objectively speaking no one should pine away for someone who is unavailable to them (either b/c that person has a boyfriend/girlfriend, is married, etc) b/c it's a waste of time. But the heart...it never knows logic or reasoning, does it? It definitely is a difficult position to be in. But know that it's a position you don't have to be in. I've learned that it's one day at a time...even if it's me walking with a limp.
It's crazy!!! I don't know how people do it. Okay, the title is a bit misleading, but it's not really about loving someone you can't have. It's about the feeling of "liking" "loving" or "falling" for someone and the feeling of the "unknown". Regardless of whether you can get that person or not is not an issue. In my case, I think he's way out of my league and is currently emotional unavailable. I can't move on and it's killing me. Not to mention, we flirted and had a great time together. I don't like having a crush on someone. I don't want to feel this way. Arghhh!
How d'you forget someone quickly? If you have any suggestions on how to not feel, I would be more than happy to listen (or in this case, read).
No need to quit doing what you are doing if you really want to choose to waste your life and love on someone who is clearly not available nor interested.
Carry on.........
PS: NO ONE is out of anyone's league unless of course you are playing in a minor league baseball team but have the talent to be in a major league baseball team......
It's crazy!!! I don't know how people do it. Okay, the title is a bit misleading, but it's not really about loving someone you can't have. It's about the feeling of "liking" "loving" or "falling" for someone and the feeling of the "unknown". Regardless of whether you can get that person or not is not an issue. In my case, I think he's way out of my league and is currently emotional unavailable. I can't move on and it's killing me. Not to mention, we flirted and had a great time together. I don't like having a crush on someone. I don't want to feel this way. Arghhh!
How d'you forget someone quickly? If you have any suggestions on how to not feel, I would be more than happy to listen (or in this case, read).
Time heals all wounds.
I don't think you can get over certain people even if you want to. You just have to let your emotions run their course. Hopefully meet somebody who shares your feelings. Just have to face that there are certain people you will always love/like/admire/crush on, etc..
It sucks though, big time! Especially if the crush isn't crushing back, or even worse, is sending mixed signals.
I agree, but if a person really wants you they will put forth effort to make it happen.
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I say go ahead and do it, he won't care much
shortnblack told me its rude. lol
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It goes to the next level and I'm like, "Okay, that did it, I have a crush!" 
