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You are basically saying that a lot of people (most) love based on shallow things. I personally can only speak for myself because I don't know anyone else's mind or heart. I'm tempted to say that some of us do not really understand Love. (I don't, only because I am still ...ahem... inexperienced )
I think that most people in the western world have a Hollywood esque idea of love (romantic comedies with plotline of a handsome wealthy bachelor wooing a quiet unconventionally attractive, social awkward guy undergoes adversity to get the hot chick of his dreams etc.,) but with a less happy ending. Most relationships are not an expression of unconditional love, but an idyllic fantasy. And yes I include myself in this blanket statement.
Although, there isn't anything wrong with fairy tales or wishful thinking in dating/relationship, but it's not very pragmatic to put human beings on pedestals.
I think that most people in the western world have a Hollywood esque idea of love (romantic comedies with plotline of a handsome wealthy bachelor wooing a quiet unconventionally attractive, social awkward guy undergoes adversity to get the hot chick of his dreams etc.,) but with a less happy ending. Most relationships are not an expression of unconditional love, but an idyllic fantasy. And yes I include myself in this blanket statement.
Although, there isn't anything wrong with fairy tales or wishful thinking in dating/relationship, but it's not very pragmatic to put human beings on pedestals.
I've tried and lost enough to know the difference between fantasy and reality.
Love is a choice, weighed by one's expectations, real or assumed.
People choose to love ,,IF the representation meets their criteria.
Women often choose to love what other women draw attention to as desirable.
A guy that is single long has a harder time than a guy that has a recent girlfriend, even if he's a jerk.
Give the single guy the attention of a respected girl and the game changes for him.
Now he has a chance, but wait it wasn't love that gave him the break, it was some one else's approval/endorsement.
Tell me it's not true.
This mess of a thread is closed. Personal attacks and trolling will not be tolerated.
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