My husband just rejected me sexually (wife, girlfriend, married, man)
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Today I was feeling rather frisky and my husband was doing chores around the house and came in to get something to eat. I was lying in bed (a bit tired today) and when he walked in, I said, I would like to have SEX WITH YOU! He said "My love, you have bad timing".... Went to eat lunch, went outside and finished washing the windows... yes, washing windows, then announced he was going to go wash the car and play golf.
We have been married for almost 5 years. He has never been a very sexual person (yes, I knew this when we got married) RARELY initiates sex and sulks often and says "you don't want to have sex with me" in a baby voice. So not appealing.
He just has a low libido I guess.... no he isn't getting it elsewhere as that would require an actual interest in sex.
I have even lost 15 pounds. I wasn't overweight to begin with but needed to lose an extra few. Now I am at my perfect weight. I have been getting botox, hair extensions, losing weight etc. He ONCE in awhile will say I look good but he is not a man of compliments. My girlfriend said it's classic psychology 101. I'm screaming for attention!
We have sought therapy for our issues (other issues like can't connect on an emotional level) as he is blocked for some reason... and it didn't work.
Last night I got back from having dinner with my sister and was wearing a very sexy outfit. He was kind of sleeping. I got in bed and was going to give him a BJ but he snapped at me and said "you are in bed with your dirty clothes on! They have been in a restaurant and that's disgusting, you know I hate that!"..... Buzzkill!!! So I undressed and got into bed. I texted my girlfriend and he got mad and said "all you do is text her and you wonder why we don't talk".... WHAT???? She is in another country all alone right now and I am her support. Geez. I just feel beat down. Not sure how much more of this I can take. REJECTION SUCKS!
Today I was feeling rather frisky and my husband was doing chores around the house and came in to get something to eat. I was lying in bed (a bit tired today) and when he walked in, I said, I would like to have SEX WITH YOU! He said "My love, you have bad timing".... Went to eat lunch, went outside and finished washing the windows... yes, washing windows, then announced he was going to go wash the car and play golf.
We have been married for almost 5 years. He has never been a very sexual person (yes, I knew this when we got married) RARELY initiates sex and sulks often and says "you don't want to have sex with me" in a baby voice. So not appealing.
He just has a low libido I guess.... no he isn't getting it elsewhere as that would require an actual interest in sex.
I have even lost 15 pounds. I wasn't overweight to begin with but needed to lose an extra few. Now I am at my perfect weight. I have been getting botox, hair extensions, losing weight etc. He ONCE in awhile will say I look good but he is not a man of compliments. My girlfriend said it's classic psychology 101. I'm screaming for attention!
We have sought therapy for our issues (other issues like can't connect on an emotional level) as he is blocked for some reason... and it didn't work.
Last night I got back from having dinner with my sister and was wearing a very sexy outfit. He was kind of sleeping. I got in bed and was going to give him a BJ but he snapped at me and said "you are in bed with your dirty clothes on! They have been in a restaurant and that's disgusting, you know I hate that!"..... Buzzkill!!! So I undressed and got into bed. I texted my girlfriend and he got mad and said "all you do is text her and you wonder why we don't talk".... WHAT???? She is in another country all alone right now and I am her support. Geez. I just feel beat down. Not sure how much more of this I can take. REJECTION SUCKS!
Sorry you get rejected from a man who doesn't have much of a libido that you already knew about before you said the I dos? The guy seems re ally cold and doesn't notice you at all. What did you see in this guy again?
Hell, whenever I get to see my GFs, I can't wait to get my arms around her and let her know how much I wanted to see her and get those clothes off!
Last night I got back from having dinner with my sister and was wearing a very sexy outfit. He was kind of sleeping. I got in bed and was going to give him a BJ but he snapped at me and said "you are in bed with your dirty clothes on! They have been in a restaurant and that's disgusting, you know I hate that!"..... Buzzkill!!!
Your relationship has BIG problems. Fix'em if you can, but don't stay around long because life is way too short to be miserable. In 22 years of marriage, I think I have turned my wife down once.
You seem to have a grasp on the circumstances, so I'm really not understanding what you're looking for.
How often does he reject you?
Sorry, I was just venting. I'm hurt. Was wondering if anyone could relate to me but looks like not!!
He once rejected me in the beginning of our relationship but he was having HUGE problems at work and was stressed. He just is never enthusiastic to have sex with me and never initiates. Sometimes I try to give cues by rubbing him in bed etc... but often he falls asleep. Then he complains we never have sex. OMG. I will never initiate again.
Look on the bright side. You have nice clean windows, don't you?
No, I don't blame you for feeling rejected. You did say you knew this about him when you married him, though. Did you think he might improve as time went on? Is there any possiblity he is gay but closeted, or do you think he is straight but just doesn't have much of a sex drive?
I wasn't overweight to begin with = I was overweight
I have even lost 15 pounds = I haven't lost much but my clothes feel good, scale doesn't budge much. Water weight?
Now I am at my perfect weight = I would like to be eventually
Look on the bright side. You have nice clean windows, don't you?
No, I don't blame you for feeling rejected. You did say you knew this about him when you married him, though. Did you think he might improve as time went on? Is there any possiblity he is gay but closeted, or do you think he is straight but just doesn't have much of a sex drive?
That's funny MightyQueen. Yes, I knew he wasn't very sexual at the beginning but he was having these HUGE issues at work and it went on for almost a year. Yes, I thought things would get better as time went on. My bad.
I did once think he MIGHT be gay but I don't think so...
I wasn't overweight to begin with = I was overweight
I have even lost 15 pounds = I haven't lost much
Now I am at my perfect weight = I would like to be eventually
I am at my perfect weight. I have even had two (MALE) friends say don't lose anymore, it won't look good on you. Anyway, has nothing to do with my husband's lack of sex drive.
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REJECTION SUCKS!
Yes, I knew he wasn't very sexual at the beginning but he was having these HUGE issues at work and it went on for almost a year. Yes, I thought things would get better as time went on. My bad. 
