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My boyfriend is really distant from me at times as well. We have been together almost a year and told me he suffered from anxiety and depression in the past. I have always had people in my life living with anxiety and depression and so i was up to the task. especially because he is perfect for me in every way. but the last few months he has pulled back. he says its cause he is sick, tired, exhausted from work, etc. he doesnt go out to see his friends either. but seeing him once a week is not enough. especially when i practically guilt him into spending any time with me at all. we havent had sex in months and its not for lack of trying. he just isnt interested. he is still self pleasuring though, according to him. i am heartbroken and defeated right now. im waiting for him to want me around i guess? i just want to be wanted.
I am currently going through this . My boyfriend has been going through things at home and its been going on for a year & still till this day but he told me awhile ago he wanted to be to his self and get his self together & he came back and then blames me for him coming back because he said i begged him when I didn’t.
i just kept trying to understand where i went wrong and he said i did nothing but i was being treated as i was the problem or i was apart of his issues at home . I didnt want him to go and i let him very well know that but i didnt make him come back.
He came back and he tells me again afterwhile that he wants to be alone etc ik he is depressed and stressed but also at the same time he posts things on social media all the time even when telling me he wants to be alone . He posts things that he knows will upset me and gets angry with me whenever i ask him about the post he posts .
He started ignoring me ALOT when we were together when he would get into a mood or he would get upset about something i did or anything and wont communicate and thats his biggest problem he cannot communicate with me . And i keep trying and trying and evenutally he will will yell “WHAT” and i would just be asking him whats wrong. And eventually he hangs up on me .
But even that we aren’t together he confuses me alot he says he will be back and he will come back to me but then its like another time he just does things like he is single and doesn’t have me. Just because we aren’t in relationship he made it seem like we are still you know like we will be but just not right now.
And he hangs with his friends and family and i keep on asking still till this day like can we hang out , i miss him , wanna see him. Etc he would say “ i know” or “i miss you too” etc.but its confusing because he would say sometimes we can hang and we never do .
Our 2yr anniversary came up and we had plans and he all of a sudden tells me oh he hasn’t got his check yet but he didn’t mention that he needed to get money before we made the move to go and hangout he said he would bring me the money so i could pay for it with my card since he cant use his right now .
Its so hard for me because its hurtful i cried my whole 2yr anniversary he knew it was special to me and he claim it was for him but didn’t even try to atleast see eachother. Never knew this person who he has become And i have been stressful for him but I noticed my wrongs and what i needed to fix and i am doing that and growing and fixing and trying to show him that and prove my self ( never cheated ) just things within my past that has happened to me. That i needed to fix about myself and i already started my journey to fix my issues ..
just wish i coulf help him but he says “ i dont want anybodys help” or “i dont need your help” or “i dont need you to be there for me” and i am genuinely just trying to be there for him and love him but its hurting and depressing me and stressing me and wish he would see he isnt the only person who is hurting and etc because i too have my own and i just wanna be there for eachother and love but he treats me this way now like i am the worst person in the world like i did him so wrong .
Treats me like everything is my fault. And yes i have explained how this hurts me so many times and he does not acknowledge it everything is about him & how he been hurting too how he has been depressed too etc when im trying to make him aware that it hurts me so bad .. i forgot to mention also when like as i mentioned when he posts stuff he gets angry he got tired of me doing soo and he blocked me from his social media saying i dont trust him , long before all of this i saw in his phone him contacting a ex that he told me he would never contact
. And it hurt me and dissapointed me and he was beating his self up about and i told him people make mistakes and i forgave him but I didn’t forget later on he then yelled and cursed at me because i was upset he followed her on social media and he told me that he just found out she was his step moms family and after finding out he talking to her ( it was normal conversation but kinda flirty as he commented on her picture on snapchat) it was hard for me to even believe that.
And i feel it is a way to make me feel bad and make me the bad person when he is really wrong . And thats how i became to have trust issues because of that situation. So back to him blocking me , so i used my friends account to see what he posts and not to long ago from today he posts some girl and he put “ late night Saturday date night with my boo” and i was devastated and told him how i felt and i was so hurt and broken and angry and he then says “ i only posted that to see if you was watching me and to see how you would react so im not lieing just because you say im lieing and say that i was cheating gtf “ like after he just posted that and then in matters of seconds everything is my fault .
Then later next day sends me a text saying how he is sorry for everything he has costs in our relationship and i wont have to worry about him etc . But its how he said it. But its confusing because everything was just my fault now he apologizes ? So i get confused if he really is dating this girl or not . Or if it really is his aunt daughter like he claimed it was . But he likes her pics on instagram and idk i could just be tripping but its too sketchy and makes me not trust him even more .
And today he posts a post saying “ i swear she about to brawl me “ meaning some girl is going to have to fight him ( playful way). And i asked who was “she” and he says “ son bye” because he claim i always think he is messing with some girl and I didn’t say anything about him messing with a girl i just asked who was she. I feel like he posts these things on purpose and treats me like that.
But i feel i have a right to know as of why because we did still have sexual relations and he tells me he loves me he tells me he will come back to me once he gets things together but i dont know . And i need advice pls thankyou for whoever replies to me i really apperciate it and i am here for anyone as well
Sasha... are you in an actual exclusive and committed relationship? Or are you two just casually dating and having sex?
You come across as being incredibly needy and clingy with him. Your actions are smothering him and it's pushing him away. He may love you but he doesn't want to BE around you.
Give him some space to breathe and recharge. Let him miss you for a change.
You come across as being incredibly needy and clingy with him. Your actions are smothering him and it's pushing him away. He may love you but he doesn't want to BE around you.
Give him some space to breathe and recharge. Let him miss you for a change.
Thats whats confusing . I apologized and told him I wouldn’t be like that anymore but he told me that it was okay to be clingy and smother him because thats what he wanted he wanted a girl to be clingy because he likes clingy but now he is this way. And its why im so confused.
Thats whats confusing . I apologized and told him I wouldn’t be like that anymore but he told me that it was okay to be clingy and smother him because thats what he wanted he wanted a girl to be clingy because he likes clingy but now he is this way. And its why im so confused.
..... said almost no man ever.
LOL. His actions say differently... but hey, you must have the ultimate unicorn among men.
LOL. His actions say differently... but hey, you must have the ultimate unicorn among men.
He wasn’t always like this... he use to love it but im telling you whats currently going on and your laughing at me isnt nice at all i came for advice and im actually trying to understand .. but thanks anyways . I dont have ultimate unicorn among men. Just because you haven’t met anyone who has said that does not make it not true . Some men actually like that. And we are 19. We are young . He does like clingy but if u read what i said i said he has things going on at home that i have witnessed . And he has turned into this person but okay.
He wasn’t always like this... he use to love it but im telling you whats currently going on and your laughing at me isnt nice at all i came for advice and im actually trying to understand .. but thanks anyways . I dont have ultimate unicorn among men. Just because you haven’t met anyone who has said that does not make it not true . Some men actually like that. And we are 19. We are young . He does like clingy but if u read what i said i said he has things going on at home that i have witnessed . And he has turned into this person but okay.
I already gave you advice based on his current actions.
He wasn’t always like this.. And he has turned into this person but okay.
That was when he wanted you, now he doesn't. The person he has turned into is the only one you get to deal with.
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