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I have only spoken to this woman twice, just pleasantries so far.
Anyways, we're talking, and she mentions that she is moving next month. I asked her why she is moving, and she said it's because she's getting a divorce.
Now, at this point, as I don't know her at all, I figure she'd stop it there, but she continues and tells me what jackass her husband is (her word, not mine) and how she calls her ugly and fat, and she can't wait to move.
I didn't know what to do, so I gave her a hug and told her she's a beautiful woman (again, had no idea what to do).
Could her venting about her husband mean anything? Why would she pick me to vent to? Does it mean more than just venting?
I have only spoken to this woman twice, just pleasantries so far.
Anyways, we're talking, and she mentions that she is moving next month. I asked her why she is moving, and she said it's because she's getting a divorce.
Now, at this point, as I don't know her at all, I figure she'd stop it there, but she continues and tells me what jackass her husband is (her word, not mine) and how she calls her ugly and fat, and she can't wait to move.
I didn't know what to do, so I gave her a hug and told her she's a beautiful woman (again, had no idea what to do).
Could her venting about her husband mean anything? Why would she pick me to vent to? Does it mean more than just venting?
If you're a man (assuming you are), it could just be that she is looking for reaffirmation from a man. It sounds like she was in an awful marriage and just wants to hear something positive from a man. I'm sure her life is pretty ugly right now and she is hurting. Is it right for her to vent to you? Who knows. Her intentions could be a million different things. I'd keep a safe distance out of her personal life until you get to know her better, you don't want her seeing you as a "rebound" or the man to fix her issues.
Not trying to jump to very big conclusions here, but it could become that. You're in a world of hurt going through a divorce. I watched my mother flock to men/crave their attention when she was getting her divorce. My parents had an awful marriage and they both treated each other like crap.
I wouldn't read too far into it. Are you interested in her?
She may think you are a good listener, or seem compassionate in some way. Maybe she was feeling vulnerable in reference to the husband and was looking for a man's support. Don't take it to personal, it could have been Larry the Cableguy at that moment
When people are going through a tough time they'll tell you bits about it, but sometimes it opens the floodgates and words pour like water, and then before you know it you're telling strangers your life story. It's sad when people burden others with their troubles.
If you're a man (assuming you are), it could just be that she is looking for reaffirmation from a man. It sounds like she was in an awful marriage and just wants to hear something positive from a man. I'm sure her life is pretty ugly right now and she is hurting. Is it right for her to vent to you? Who knows. Her intentions could be a million different things. I'd keep a safe distance out of her personal life until you get to know her better, you don't want her seeing you as a "rebound" or the man to fix her issues.
Not trying to jump to very big conclusions here, but it could become that. You're in a world of hurt going through a divorce. I watched my mother flock to men/crave their attention when she was getting her divorce. My parents had an awful marriage and they both treated each other like crap.
I wouldn't read too far into it. Are you interested in her?
Thanks for the great reply! I suspect you are right on.
I have only spoken to this woman twice, just pleasantries so far.
Anyways, we're talking, and she mentions that she is moving next month. I asked her why she is moving, and she said it's because she's getting a divorce.
Now, at this point, as I don't know her at all, I figure she'd stop it there, but she continues and tells me what jackass her husband is (her word, not mine) and how she calls her ugly and fat, and she can't wait to move.
I didn't know what to do, so I gave her a hug and told her she's a beautiful woman (again, had no idea what to do).
Could her venting about her husband mean anything? Why would she pick me to vent to? Does it mean more than just venting?
Most likely nothing. She just needed someone to vent to and you happened to be there when she needed it.
I have only spoken to this woman twice, just pleasantries so far.
Anyways, we're talking, and she mentions that she is moving next month. I asked her why she is moving, and she said it's because she's getting a divorce.
Now, at this point, as I don't know her at all, I figure she'd stop it there, but she continues and tells me what jackass her husband is (her word, not mine) and how she calls her ugly and fat, and she can't wait to move.
I didn't know what to do, so I gave her a hug and told her she's a beautiful woman (again, had no idea what to do).
Could her venting about her husband mean anything? Why would she pick me to vent to? Does it mean more than just venting?
Sometimes you have to figure these things out for yourself, because running to the internet to ask other people will never tell you what she is actually thinking.
Every time a question is asked here in place of asking the actual person, all you're getting is guesses, and all you're doing is making assumptions from those guesses, picking the response you like best, that works in your favor.
What did people do before the internet? They listened to their gut, and they learned through trial and error for themselves. You'll never learn to rely on gut instinct if you never use it. And I don't mean this only for you, but for anyone who wonders what someone meant and asks other people to speak on that person's behalf.
There's no way to know if she was just venting to you or if she was trying to let you know she was soon to be available. Being that it sounds like she was griping about her husband a lot, I would lean towards venting.
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