What does he need to do to earn you back? (date, how to)

[Mimi85]

So ...he showed interest, then he pulled back, then he called and ask to see you. Will you go?

I am thinking of going, because we do know each other as friends and I am not sure how to say no without making it awkward. I think I still like him, but I am also angry with him for pulling back. So how do you say you are angry without making it a big deal?

[SummerFall]

Let it go. He may have had a reason for pulling back, he could have been unsure...etc. A good way to make sure things don't go well is to bring THAT up. If he is being normal just enjoy ur time with him.
You will find out down the road if its gonna turn into something. Relax for now.

[Mimi85]

Originally Posted by SummerFall

Let it go. He may have had a reason for pulling back, he could have been unsure...etc. A good way to make sure things don't go well is to bring THAT up. If he is being normal just enjoy ur time with him.
You will find out down the road if its gonna turn into something. Relax for now.

Thanks. I guess that's what I may have to do, but I do feel somewhat bitter. And yes, he made it seems like no time has passed and everything was normal. Hmm

[JC84]

I agree with Summer, thought I'm not gonna lie, I'm a lesser person because I would probably pull back a little bit too until he made an effort to 'win' me back LOL

[purehuman]

Originally Posted by Mimi85

So how do you say you are angry without making it a big deal?

You don't.
What do you mean when you say "he pulled back"?

[ellie]

Originally Posted by Mimi85

So ...he showed interest, then he pulled back, then he called and ask to see you. Will you go?

I am thinking of going, because we do know each other as friends and I am not sure how to say no without making it awkward. I think I still like him, but I am also angry with him for pulling back. So how do you say you are angry without making it a big deal?

Goodness gracious, what's gotten into people these days? You're over analyzing everything! What does he need to do to earn you back?

Get real. Some people are squirrely. You get the image? Back and forth trying to cross the street till you eventually run over the poor creature -- or not.

Let's rewrite this:

A certain guy is squirrely. You're friends and you like him and you thought he liked you, but he keeps changing his mind.

You give him one more chance to screw up and then it's over or you cut your losses now and tell him you don't date squirrels.

[Mimi85]

Originally Posted by JC84

I agree with Summer, thought I'm not gonna lie, I'm a lesser person because I would probably pull back a little bit too until he made an effort to 'win' me back LOL

What kind of "effort" do you need? Yea, I would say I am the lesser person too ....if you haven't known it yet....

Originally Posted by purehuman

You don't.
What do you mean when you say "he pulled back"?

Well, he stopped responding to me like he did in the past. In the past, he would call me up, return my call immediately. We would hang out. He would be extremely friendly. He would hold me. Then , he's not the same anymore.

Originally Posted by ellie

You're over analyzing everything! What does he need to do to earn you back?

I am not sure I get what you mean ....are you referring to your own experience?

[grumptacular]

Originally Posted by Mimi85

Thanks. I guess that's what I may have to do, but I do feel somewhat bitter. And yes, he made it seems like no time has passed and everything was normal. Hmm

That bitterness, (I feel it too), is personal pride. Best thing to do is take your time and deal with your own medicine. Drop this guy. You will appreciate it in the long run

[Rhenzanite]

He met another woman, ignored you because of it, then she didn't work out so he went back to you.

I'd drop him.

[homina12]

I'm kinda hoping he's somewhere asking "how do I earn her back?' and someone is telling him he needs to have more self respect than to think or act that way.