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Same here, I'm a struggling young guy (in terms of finding my career job), and to top it off the only mainstays in public are some volunteer work with a radio station (it is a way to meet people but not going to ask women out while volunteering), the gym (doesn't work) and church (also feels awkward to approach, and people just leave right after church). Not much opportunity for interaction. The only place where I feel I can is at the bar, but I frequently go by myself, since I feel more tied up if I go with others.
Church services usually aren't the best place to interact, but church activities are. In my area the churches hold all kinds of activities for kids or singles or whatever and volunteering to pour coffee or be on the planning committee can be a great place to get to know people and start down the road to establishing a relationship.
I usually only attend church for "marryin's and burryin's", but when I was in High School I attended regularly and the youth programs were a great place to meet young women outside of school. I had some great times while involved in those programs.
Might be worth a look to see what is offered anyway, and a much better place to meet people than the bars which are usually just a meat shop.
Not often, maybe 4 times. Usually it has been something along the lines of meeting someone at a bar and they slip me their number at the end of the night and say "Call me if you would like to go out" or something along those lines.
If you were never asked out, my question is are you out and about? Out in public? Socialize?
I do go out.
Also, I have spent a good part of me being single working in high rise office buildings. That includes now. I never had anyone come up to me in public and ask me for a date.
Same for me. Someone else conveyed a similar sentiment in a different thread and the concept seemed so foreign to me because of how impressed I am by a woman who takes initiative.
Just goes to show you how much variation there is in peoples experiences here.
Church services usually aren't the best place to interact, but church activities are. In my area the churches hold all kinds of activities for kids or singles or whatever and volunteering to pour coffee or be on the planning committee can be a great place to get to know people and start down the road to establishing a relationship.
I usually only attend church for "marryin's and burryin's", but when I was in High School I attended regularly and the youth programs were a great place to meet young women outside of school. I had some great times while involved in those programs.
Might be worth a look to see what is offered anyway, and a much better place to meet people than the bars which are usually just a meat shop.
It generally depends on the Church.
I go to a Church where there is a lot of interaction. You might want to go to a smaller Church for meeting people. Larger churches in my experience are rather more detached.
I do go out.
Also, I have spent a good part of me being single working in high rise office buildings. That includes now. I never had anyone come up to me in public and ask me for a date.
Hmmm......you are right about this, I usually am acquainted with them.
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But we had been dating a couple years first.
