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its really not the fault of the entire female gender when an individual has such little self respect that they will put up with someone who treats them like Mod snip.
I am in a "traditional" marriage insomuch as I am the sole income earner while my wife is a SAHM. But I also contribute at home by doing some cleaning, cooking, etc. I actually like cooking amd my wife and I enjoy doing it together. I also do a lot of food prep on the grill/smoker, so when I'm doing that my wife is freed up to not have to cook. As for household work, we gauge each other's stress level and divide work accordingly. I clean the kitchen as often as she does. Why? Because anyone who thinks being a SAHM is easy is a dumba$$ who probably doesn't have kids of his own.
Consider this: I go to work and when my work day is over I come home. But my wife's work day technically never ends. This is why it doesn't bother me to help out around the house. She needs a break too. I know a few men who also are in traditional marriages but they don't help out around their homes at all. Not surprisingly their wives are in a constant state of dissatisfaction. Most of these women are friends of my wife (meaning I'm not close friends with the husbands). I think guys who do it like this run the risk of their wives getting fed up and leaving them, and if it happened I can't say I blame them.
Men on this very thread have criticized women who beleive sex is all they should have to contribute to the relationship. On a similar note, there are a lot of men who believe a paycheck is all they should have to contribute, and expect everything else to be done for them, AND when the dust settles on the day for their wives to be willing partners.
Yeah, good luck with that.
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A lot of, I don't think stupid is the word....maybe not experienced, men put up with A LOT for hot....it's sad, but true.
I think that this is part and parcel with the idea you see on this forum all the time that a woman is an item to achieve. With that goal in mind, what else is a man to want for traits besides hot? Until people approach dating and mating with the idea of building strong interpersonal relationships, they are hosed. Male or female.
I am in a "traditional" marriage insomuch as I am the sole income earner while my wife is a SAHM. But I also contribute at home by doing some cleaning, cooking, etc. I actually like cooking amd my wife and I enjoy doing it together. I also do a lot of food prep on the grill/smoker, so when I'm doing that my wife is freed up to not have to cook. As for household work, we gauge each other's stress level and divide work accordingly. I clean the kitchen as often as she does. Why? Because anyone who thinks being a SAHM is easy is a dumba$$ who probably doesn't have kids of his own.
Consider this: I go to work and when my work day is over I come home. But my wife's work day technically never ends. This is why it doesn't bother me to help out around the house. She needs a break too. I know a few men who also are in traditional marriages but they don't help out around their homes at all. Not surprisingly their wives are in a constant state of dissatisfaction. Most of these women are friends of my wife (meaning I'm not close friends with the husbands). I think guys who do it like this run the risk of their wives getting fed up and leaving them, and if it happened I can't say I blame them.
Men on this very thread have criticized women who beleive sex is all they should have to contribute to the relationship. On a similar note, there are a lot of men who believe a paycheck is all they should have to contribute, and expect everything else to be done for them, AND when the dust settles on the day for their wives to be willing partners.
Yeah, good luck with that.
Yeah, this is something I have seen a lot and it saddens me. For men that do have SAHW that DO work many don't understand that it's practically 24/7 unlike 9-5 or whatever standard hours he works. SAHW/M don't get designated "breaks" nor can they just "clock out" when "the man is home" and sit down and do whatever they want with their free time.
Though my daughter cooks/cleans etc. for her bf he always helps out and does things for her like drawing a bath for her or telling her not to worry, he'll take care of x. He treats her like a queen and she treats him like a king. They have a great relationship! Heck, there have been times when they've been over to my place and he's offered to help ME out!
She says when she gets her degree if she gets married she wants to be a SAHM.
Meh I find quite a lot of people are skewed on what 'traditional' and 'equal' means flip flopping on welching when it suits. I find so many guys talk about a partnership and equality yet the gal is still doing all/most of the childcare/household duties while working a job and there is still the mindset of the male as head of the household/leader/wearing the pants. Seemingly statistics support that generally guys don't truly want or pursue a partnership since gals generally do all/most of the childcare/household duties. I find a guy's meaning of equal/partnership tends to be limited solely/mainly to finances.
Selfish and lazy does not = "traditional." Nobody should accept a relationship where one party takes and takes and takes and contributes nothing.
I'm happiest in a relationship with elements of both of us taking care of things for the other. That's the whole point of a partnership...give and take.
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