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For us it has been the Requisite 6 or so weeks following child birth.But maybe this doesn't count because even as my wife recovered, she did "other things" to me! I would get rewards for getting up at night and changing baby diapers and feeding and soothing the baby. My kid too, right? Apparently my wife loved it and made sure she let me know about it!
Yes, the question is directed towards married people, or formerly married people can answer about when they were married.
So you only had sex once with him in ten years?
No. We had sex once on our honeymoon. Then twice a year for a few years. Then when we decided to have a child we had sex monthly... only one day when I was ovulating (had to prove to him with charts and taking my basil body temperature). It was so clinical. Although some months he said he wasn't in the mood. Once we found out I was pregnant, it all stopped and there was no more sex for the last ten years of the marriage--until we divorced.
For what it's worth, the sex was horrible too. It wasn't until I started dating after I was divorced that I found out sex could actually be "good." But in retrospect, it's pretty clear why.
No. We had sex once on our honeymoon. Then twice a year for a few years. Then when we decided to have a child we had sex monthly... only one day when I was ovulating (had to prove to him with charts and taking my basil body temperature). It was so clinical. Although some months he said he wasn't in the mood. Once we found out I was pregnant, it all stopped and there was no more sex for the last ten years of the marriage--until we divorced.
For what it's worth, the sex was horrible too. It wasn't until I started dating after I was divorced that I found out sex could actually be "good." But in retrospect, it's pretty clear why.
How did you stay in a sexless relationship for 10 years? I would have bailed after a couple months.
No. We had sex once on our honeymoon. Then twice a year for a few years. Then when we decided to have a child we had sex monthly... only one day when I was ovulating ...
... after that, when did you go into NO sex at all stage, and how long did that last?
It's been over two years now. of course, he's 86 now, which seems to have something to do with it. I'm 83, and arthritis makes it uncomfortable with it, so we manage just fine.
How did you stay in a sexless relationship for 10 years? I would have bailed after a couple months.
A belief that marriage is for life and for better or for worse... that was part of the "worse" as I saw it. I always say him leaving me and asking for a divorce was a gift because I probably never would have left him.
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... after that, when did you go into NO sex at all stage, and how long did that last?
As soon as that pregnancy test came up positive ... no sex at all, ever again. His choice, not mine.
As soon as that pregnancy test came up positive ... no sex at all, ever again. His choice, not mine.
Okay.. and after the pregnancy, how long did that last before you had sex again with him or divorced?
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It's been over two years now. of course, he's 86 now, which seems to have something to do with it. I'm 83, and arthritis makes it uncomfortable with it, so we manage just fine.
Since you are both older are you both okay with that, or do you want to do it?
Okay.. and after the pregnancy, how long did that last before you had sex again with him or divorced?
I am not sure how I can more clearly explain it. We never had sex again at all after I became pregnant for the rest of the marriage (about 10 years from that point until the divorce papers were signed by the judge). He only had sex to have a child.
I am not sure how I can more clearly explain it. We never had sex again at all after I became pregnant for the rest of the marriage (about 10 years from that point until the divorce papers were signed by the judge). He only had sex to have a child.
Oh, I didn't realize you were married for longer than 10 years. I thought you were together for total of 10 years. Your story is so crazy! I'm sorry you went through that.
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I would get rewards for getting up at night and changing baby diapers and feeding and soothing the baby. My kid too, right? Apparently my wife loved it and made sure she let me know about it!
