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I'm not really sure what to title this thread. But here's my question. Let's say you've agreed to a blind date situation-like a friend of a friend whom you only know a little about, for example (not online dating where you at least have a profile to reference). Instead of playing cruise director, your friend gives one of you the other person's contact information so you can work out the details amongst yourselves.
Is it common for that process to be very businesslike with all communication just focused on the scheduling the date, or is it more common to try to initiate some sort of conversation/get some banter going as well? Personally, I feel the businesslike approach displays somewhat of a lack of interest but admittedly, I've been out of the game for quite some time (hence the question).
The first time this happened was last spring-there was no second date. Now I'm in the process of going through it again with someone else I have not yet met, but it's the same thing: all his messages are just one sentence and only pertain to setting up a time to meet. If I try to engage further, I don't get anything in response.
The first time this happened was last spring-there was no second date. Now I'm in the process of going through it again with someone else I have not yet met, but it's the same thing: all his messages are just one sentence and only pertain to setting up a time to meet. If I try to engage further, I don't get anything in response.
So now I'm wondering if this is normal.
Does it really matter? Different people may handle it differently. Hopefully, he's saving his conversation skills for the actual date. I hope you at least get a good conversation and a pleasant afternoon or evening out of it.
Does it really matter? Different people may handle it differently. Hopefully, he's saving his conversation skills for the actual date. I hope you at least get a good conversation and a pleasant afternoon or evening out of it.
It's not so much that it matters, but the last time I really dated was when I met LH in 1999. A lot has changed since then. Thursday will be 6 years since he died and I feel I'm at a place to start dating again. I did date someone on an off (mostly off) for about 6 months in 2010, but I've only had one date since then, which was the above-mentioned blind date in 2010. (Not for lack of trying-I've been on and off the OLD sites for the last couple of years).
I'm just trying to figure out what today's norm is so I know what to expect.
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Don't worry about "norms". They're as varied as people.
Generally I think this other person is doing it right. Meet and then try to connect. There is not reason for investing or chit chatting too much until you know there is chemistry. He might be very busy too.
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