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I am amazed on how many blind (Internet Personals) Dates many of my friends go on without any type of personal connection. It is amazing to me how intelligent College Educated professionals- who have so much in common on paper, can meet so many people- who have been pre-selected, but still have such a miserable time when they meet.
When I was single, I meet a number of people through the personals and while the dates were not perfect I could tell you specifically why they did not work out. None of my friends who are dating can give me a reason why they did not like any of their dates.
Give us something SPECIFIC about why you did not like the people you meet in a blind date.
Let's say you chat on-line, your personalities gel and then you go for a real life meeting and the person has the WORST eating habits, or maybe sniffs every 2 seconds, or even wrinkles their glasses back up their noses and looks like a rat. Those kind of things are so SILLY but they are a huge turn off. Sometimes I meet someone and the vibes are just off. No chemistry period. Sometimes this person is just PERFECT but if it ain't there, it ain't there.
The reason that stands out more then anything is when a man/woman wearing a bottle of what they think smells good. Smelling good is one thing.... but wearing a bottle of it is another thing. We all want to look & smell our best.... but c'mon now.
Another one that rings a bell... would be sitting with someone who used to talk your ear off on the phone or type until their hands fell off... but now they can't seem to say two words... a lot of it I think is the "physical" end of it.... people might be going into it "expecting" something... or in other words looking foward to something and being disappointed.
There are times you can talk with someone for just a few mins and know that it would never work out... it's just "that" feeling. Hopefully that makes some kind of sense and is something along the lines of why your friends can't explain the reason "why" to you....
Another one that rings a bell... would be sitting with someone who used to talk your ear off on the phone or type until their hands fell off... but now they can't seem to say two words...
.....maybe they are just really really shy first time in person! I'm doomed!! /cry
I feel some people nowadays(maybe because of shorter-attention spans) do not give the other's person another shot. Sometimes the chemistry is not always going to develop instantanously, but needs time and nurturing to develop it. At the same time there are people who "clicked" initially but the relationship eventually withered.
I think people are sometimes on different wavelengths when it comes to conversation. I meet lots of girls who will get off on one particular topic, and whittle the conversation down to "me, me, me".
Don't get me wrong; I understand my role, as a guy, is to listen to what a girl wants to talk about. So, if I'm going to be spending a lot of my time listening to her talking, she'd better have some interesting things to say.
So to sum up: Its OK if girls like to talk. It's not OK if they only talk about themselves.
I've been on 3 blind dates before (2 set up by coworkers and 1 set up by a neighbor). I will never go on a blind date AGAIN!!! None of the guys were guys I would have been attracted to. It was nice of them to think of me, to put the effort into setting me up but never again. I'm married anyways but even if I wasn't I would not do that again.
I think people build up certain expectations when chatting on line and in their mind they have this image of what they think the person is like,
If when meeting the person is not as they expected something inside of them feels a certain disappointment
I know people this has happened to, the person they finally met was nice looking and had a good job and was really nice but they in their mind were expecting something different so they were "turned off"
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