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Hey, but I thought you'd met someone. Didn't work out? I'm sorry to hear that.
I gave up. There isn't anyone for me, and I'm on the wrong side of 55 now. I think I will always be sad about it at moments, but most of the time, I'm OK about it.
I did have a moment of anger last week, because society still views single people as "less thans". I've been working on a big project that has required a lot of late and weekend time (I am salaried and do not get paid for overtime). I was sitting in a conference room with my boss and the program director talking about the next steps, and my boss said, "Well, it's going to probably require some weekend work, and those of us who have honeys at home are getting a lot of pushback for not being available on the weekends." Then she looked at me and grinned. They are both married and I am not. She was letting me know that I could expect to be the one to pull the weekend hours, since after all, I have no "honey" at home.
I was so angry, but as it turned out, coming in on the weekend wasn't necessary. But it wasn't necessary to say that to me, either, especially in front of another person.
Yes, I had found someone. Turned out she wasn't good for me at all. I considered marrying her. Now 4 weeks removed, I'm glad I didn't, but am lonely. It sucks.
What she said to you was really uncalled for. I'm a fish out of water in my office, as I'm one of I think only 4 single people in a company of 35. I hate it. But they don't talk to me that way, at least. I just feel like an outsider. I'm also jealous because I want what they have, marriage and family. I really need to just leave this city, but thats going to take time to figure out.
Yes, I had found someone. Turned out she wasn't good for me at all. I considered marrying her. Now 4 weeks removed, I'm glad I didn't, but am lonely. It sucks.
What she said to you was really uncalled for. I'm a fish out of water in my office, as I'm one of I think only 4 single people in a company of 35. I hate it. But they don't talk to me that way, at least. I just feel like an outsider. I'm also jealous because I want what they have, marriage and family. I really need to just leave this city, but thats going to take time to figure out.
Yes, well my boss is a bit of a psycho. She sends these bizarro nasty emails out at night to her staff--I think she is home drinking when she sends them. So, it wasn't too out of character for her to say that, but it still stung a bit. Like I'm something less because I don't have anyone.
There are a couple of other, older single/divorced women like me at work, but most people ARE married. When they start all talking about their husbands/wives and their plans and their vacations and their social lives, I just walk away.
I'm sorry your relationship didn't work out, but at least you didn't find out after marriage. You don't need that again. I hope you do find someone.
I know how you feel. I'm 42, Asian. Unfortunately I'm mainly attracted to Caucasian women, and for the reason you already mentioned, the odds are stacked against me.
Now, otherwise, I am quite successful. I am in good shape (marathon runner), make well over 6 figures, and an overall decent person. However, it never works out for me with dating.
The people I'm attracted to just lose interest or vice versa. It sucks...but I have realized that I will probably die alone.
Listen, op.
I know needle in a haystack.
You think you are looking for one?
I want a hot, feminine, fit, ultra educated, conservative, family-oriented, spiritual without being religious, athletic, well-read, professional, nice gay woman...narrow that down further by age and geography... THAT is a needle in a haystack.
I also have some racial preferences.
And I found THREE. Married one.
Keep looking.
She is there.
Oh, BTW, I did not meet them on line and I do not hang out with other gay people.
First off. Heidi Klum likes black dudes. Just saying. She's smokin' and in your age range. Am I actually suggesting you call up Heidi? No, but I'm trying to make a point.
Secondly, five dates? Even someone with very, very lenient "standards" as far as appearance/race usually has to go on a lot more than 5 dates to find someone they really click with.
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