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Do those kinds of guys approach anyone? I mean other than good-looking, high-status women? And you see here in thread after thread where men who don't think they are "good looking" enough won't approach. So who does that leave to do the approaching (very few I would think... once you remove the men who are taken, the men who are good looking enough that they don't approach, and the men who think because they aren't an Adonis they "can't" approach).
I really am curious, what percentage of men actually do approach women. Especially now that online dating is so widely accepted and men really don't need to take the risk of approaching random strangers who may or may not be in a relationship.
It's been my experience that "those kinds of guys" do a LOT of approaching. Why? Because they have a better success rate, it's more fun. The guys I know that fit into this category are those crazy bastards that like women to play hard to get and enjoy chasing women because they actually need a challenge once in a while.
Isn't "rejected" a rather strong term to use for this particular instance? Being broken up with is much more of a rejection than someone you don't know not being into you. It's not fun, granted, but it's nothing to wallow in self pity about.
Try getting rejected a few hundred times and see how your opinion changes. Your attitude is that of someone who clearly has no idea what I'm talking about.
But don't let me stop you from enjoying that female privilege...while it lasts.
Because like you guys it is frustrating to not have things work out.
I gave up, and wanted to concentrate on me and my son.
My friends still try to set me up. I told them no more! They keep giving me men that have millions of hang-ups. One didn't like that my friend came without her boyfriend and he couldn't compete. Although I was 27-28.
Now I'm old and count my grays. Haha.
You quit for the same reasons most of us guys have.
I have an idea, I've heard so many guys on here talk about how women never do the approaching, I'm going to try it out...for the rest of the month, every time I see a guy who I feel is attractive - I'm going to walk up to them and tell them so. I'm going to
If they are with another woman I will compliment her on her good taste in men.
Then I'm going to report back to CD with the results...that will be March the 18th.
How many think that the guys will look at me like I just stepped off a spaceship?
How many think the guys will laugh in my face and walk away?
How many will get out a peice of paper and a pen and start exchanging phone numbers?
How many of them with women, will the woman present slap me?
To make it a real experiment, lets say I have to go for a quota of 25 guys total...
Ready, set.... GO
Depends what kind of guys you are going to approach. If you approach the hot guys, they'll be totally used to it already. They'll react just like women react. The ones that are complaining that no women approach are average and below men. Are you attracted to that level of man?
An average man might be surprised, but it happens to them, just not often. Below average men, rare.
Now, as for myself, if I were to be approached by a woman, I would think she either had an ulterior motive or that I was just imagining the whole thing. Just as women here always advise.
"Guys always see interest where there is nothing."
JBT1980, if you like that sort of thing. I meant ask ladies out.
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How would you do your approach out of curiosity?
Hmmmm, let's see I think if it's a dude I really don't know I would use a grocery store or a store. There I can relate to my items I'm looking for or his. I then can ask questions. But like you guys I do have a hard time figuring if he is single or not. Sometimes are clues of the items they buy or their dress.
Try getting rejected a few hundred times and see how your opinion changes. Your attitude is that of someone who clearly has no idea what I'm talking about.
But don't let me stop you from enjoying that female privilege...while it lasts.
A few hundred times? Really? If someone is honestly getting no "yes"s to make the "no"s worthwhile, I'd wonder if their approach was faulty or they had difficulty reading social cues and were asking out people who are clearly not interested. Not everyone is going to be into everyone else, that's a given, but there's bigger issues there.
Depends what kind of guys you are going to approach. If you approach the hot guys, they'll be totally used to it already. They'll react just like women react. The ones that are complaining that no women approach are average and below men. Are you attracted to that level of man?
An average man might be surprised, but it happens to them, just not often. Below average men, rare.
This hasn't been my experience. Even the hottest of guys don't get approached by women, or at least very rarely. They just find women more receptive to THEIR approaches.
Perhaps your experience will help you garner more insight into why many guys are tired of it.
What could it hurt? Oh...I don't know, your pride, your self-esteem, your confidence etc. etc. etc.
I never understood this. I get absolutely none of my pride, self-esteem or confidence from men. It comes from accomplishments waaayyyy outside of the realm of dating/relationships/looks and men.
Do those kinds of guys approach anyone? I mean other than good-looking, high-status women? And you see here in thread after thread where men who don't think they are "good looking" enough won't approach. So who does that leave to do the approaching (very few I would think... once you remove the men who are taken, the men who are good looking enough that they don't approach, and the men who think because they aren't an Adonis they "can't" approach).
I really am curious, what percentage of men actually do approach women. Especially now that online dating is so widely accepted and men really don't need to take the risk of approaching random strangers who may or may not be in a relationship.
It leaves very few people. The marriage and birth rates in the USA are evidence of this, I think. We have "enlightened" ourselves all the way to cultural decline. How cheeky.
What percentage? That's a tough question because I think nearly all men have approached at some point in their lives. But as for single men who are actively approaching and looking for relationships...I would say 10%.
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