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The point of this thread is useless. 50k a year can go very far in some cities, others it won't get you anywhere. Also I can see where some women won't answer truthfully as it might make them appear as 'gold diggers'.
I also want to stress some women are clueless about expenses, so while they 'say' they would be happy to date a man making only 50k, they are left upset when reality sets in and they are not going on vacations, eating out as often as they would like, and end up staying at home too often because there are less opportunities to go out due to financial limitations.
Why would a woman with her own money go out less often once she started dating someone who was making a lower salary than her? Does it reduce her income too?
As to the question, if a guy is making a pittance at age 35-40 (as per the OP), my main concern would be why, not how much. If he is a teacher or an artist and demonstrated talent/drive in a low-income field, fine. If he is is making minimum wage at that age because of laziness, mental illness, felony record or cognitive disability, no thanks.
A guy by then should be established but to me there's no set amount. However if he has a low paying job at that age like a restaurant or retail I will pass because we will have nothing in common.
A guy by then should be established but to me there's no set amount. However if he has a low paying job at that age like a restaurant or retail I will pass because we will have nothing in common.
A guy by then should be established but to me there's no set amount. However if he has a low paying job at that age like a restaurant or retail I will pass because we will have nothing in common.
I want him to make enough to support his current lifestyle. I don't want to have to downgrade my lifestyle if he has an ego that can't tolerate a woman making more than he does. But here's the twist .... I also am cautious with men who are clearly looking for women with high paying careers because they want to upgrade their lifestyle. I'm generous. But I'm also not stupid.
Enough to see to his own needs and wants. I make enough to provide for myself. That's what I expect from a partner too.
Added edit: I would be perfectly happy marrying a guy who was willing to cut back his own work (or be a stay-at-home husband) to take care of the house, administrative details, etc. My job is becoming more and more demanding, and I'm finding it hard to keep up with all of that stuff. My job is very stable, and I will likely only find myself unemployed if the company somehow went under - in which case, I would be well-positioned to fill the vaccuum with my own business. If I met a man who had simple tastes, like I do, if he was good with money and handy, and wanted to take a management role as my husband, we could live comfortably on what I will be making in my job in the future. I realize that's a pipe dream, but if a guy like that drops into my lap, I'm not gonna turn him down
Because it tells me he is likely uneducated and underachieving.
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