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It's hardly an indication of what's going on in real life. All I can say is more fool the man who doesn't care what his woman earns. It's financially prudent to think about the impact on a long term relationship and to consider the income of both partners. In this day and age few men can support a household on one income. Looking pretty doesn't pay the bills.
I agree, looking pretty doesn't pay the the bills, but I posted earlier in the thread, as long as she's able to support herself and isn't drowning in debt, that's cool with me.
Truth be told I have never in my whole life have I ever heard a guy make a point about how much money a woman makes, I've heard a small amount of talk about golddiggin, but really small talk about it, if you believe this forum all men are fearful of golddiggers , but never have I heard a guy rank high income in terms of what draws him to her.
When I was younger it never mattered, but I think if I was single again, at my stage in life, a woman better have her financial house in some kind of order.
If that's the case, then let's just hope that the guys who don't expect much financially from women aren't the ones who show up complaining about paying for dates or her spending habits, or god forbid, having to pay alimony. Hey, she's hot and money's not important, right?
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Originally Posted by Djuna
Looking pretty doesn't pay the bills.
There's a lot of hot women that would beg to differ they're always finding that idiot paying their rent/mortgage, car payment, etc. Lol
It's hardly an indication of what's going on in real life. All I can say is more fool the man who doesn't care what his woman earns. It's financially prudent to think about the impact on a long term relationship and to consider the income of both partners. In this day and age few men can support a household on one income. Looking pretty doesn't pay the bills.
I'd say it should be none of my business how much the woman makes, as long as she can support herself, or the whole issue shouldn't rank high at all. There are few most common reasons why some guy would place woman's income (or lack of) as a top priority in their evaluation:
1. they expect the woman to financially support them (means the higher the better)
2. they expect to support their woman (demanding her out of workforce), or make it such to a certain extent (i.e. earning less than them)
3. they plan on merging their assets and merging their incomes in everyday lives (this depends, many will want approximately equal assets and that their income through their mutual life shouldn't differ much)
I'd say none of those choices are smart in the world where couples cohabit, but it's neither smart to do it in marriage. It's best to keep assets separate and know who owns what, without other party's legal claims on something that they didn't earn.
Judging from the poll results, I'd disagree with the conclusion that guys don't see the income as important factor, given that over 1/3 of all participants voted for the highest possible income given in the poll. Someone who earns 150,000$ in a year can easily be close to top 1% salary earners in the whole country, thus it's definitely NOT an "average" salary, far from it.
I was stuck on picking 15hr or 50k a year. Where I live women make up most of the labor market and not men so very often you will find women who work and have jobs. The thing is that most women work in service jobs that do not pay to well and if anything is probably at 12 dollars an hour at most and some of these women have college degrees. What a woman makes is not important to me however she does need to have her finances in order like I do, minimum debt or no debt like I do, plus a college degree. Even though money is not an important issue to me, the woman that I'd date or in a relationship with has to have some sort of savings or something. Even though women have made huge gains and strides in the work place in the past 40 years after the sex revolution, women still have not cracked the glass ceiling so me dating a woman who is making 150 is very unlikely. Also note plenty of women make up a huge portion of college graduates, I'm sure a good number of women are washed up in college debt. It wont be a concern if she has college debt but she needs to address that on her own and not me! One last thing is that I wont date a woman who makes more money than me, because from my experience a woman like that makes money an issue all the time.
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Enough to not need my money to support her but not more than me. I am easily intimidated and insecure.
If they have enough to not need you, then they are there because they want to be. If they make a lot more than you it can be uncomfortable. It would always nag at me.
Look at John McCain. He married wealth didn't he? Do you want to be like him. He was a ware hero, a role model to men everywhere. Now what is he?
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, but never have I heard a guy rank high income in terms of what draws him to her.
they're always finding that idiot paying their rent/mortgage, car payment, etc. Lol
