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I was born and raised Catholic, my husband was born and raised Lutheran. Neither one of us adopted the other's religion, however he did get married in my church and agree to raise our children Catholic.
The reverse is true for my husband and I. I'm the lifelong Lutheran, he's the lifelong Catholic. We have each retained our individual affiliations. We were married in my Lutheran church. We are on military orders right now and far from our home parish/congregation, and we generally attend a Lutheran church we've found and like near our base. Prior to our move, we would usually attend one another's church regularly. Catholic mass and Lutheran service are more similar than different, though, and one needn't convert or be a member to attend, in either case. We don't have children.
We shared the same general belief system (Christianity), but attended different churches as we grew up. While growing up we both came to the decision that organized corporate-based churches weren't what either of us wanted and found a small locally-owned church to attend together now and then.
My ex-husband and I were both Christian of the Independent Fundamental Baptist variety, though his exposure wasn't nearly as heavy as mine (he went to church mainly with his grandparents). When we married we rededicated our lives to the Church and became heavily involved in our faith and "Christian walk." Some five years later I deconverted from classical theism entirely, and he followed suit. However, I was convinced he was always a skeptic deep down, so his deconversion process was not like mine, which altogether was about a year long process. For him it was practically the instant I declared I was no longer part of the faith. We had a few discussions and he soon realized he, too, was a skeptic at heart.
My journey thereafter took a different and varied turn, which in turn led me to where I am today. I've been on the entire spectrum of religiosity from hyper-fundamentalism to strong/explicit atheism/metaphysical naturalism. He, on the other hand, didn't make the same journey. He's still an atheist/apatheist, which is no biggie since I am a relative metaphysical atheist (strong/explicit relative to mythological deities) -- agnostic pandeist with various leanings (Buddhist, Taoist, Advaitist, and Pagan).
Since then I have dated fellow nontheists, usually agnostics, atheists or pantheists/pandeists. My beau is atheist, strong/explicit relative to mythological deities, and perhaps agnostic relative to a First Cause (like me). For the most part he identifies himself as an atheist.
So, in my case, since I only date or pursue those who have similar metaphysical leanings, there is nothing for either party to really adopt. However, in the past I've had partners take on or adopt certain classifications within nontheism as I gave them a better understanding of the different positions held.
I wouldn't date someone for whom religion is important in the first place.
Besides my first boyfriend who was a buffet style Catholic, I've never dated anyone religious. I don't think it would have worked. My mom was Christian and my dad was Jewish but my father was an agnostic Jew and my mom basically believes in a higher power and that's about it. Neither one converted for the other and I wasn't raised with either religion beyond celebrating the holidays.
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