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It's not as black-and-white as people being either "cheaters" or "non-cheaters." As with anything else, some people are chronic, but most people are just regular non-perfect human beings who try to do the right thing and sometimes make mistakes.
I have always found that those who yell the loudest are often the most guilty. I was guilty of cheating on my first girlfriend. The relationship was over and I transitioned into my next relationship before ending it. Her best friend who was married was going around telling our mutual friends how I was a cheat and a bum. I found out her best friend was banging everyone on the block including some druggy and a transient. She ended up with an STD and passed it to her husband.
Absolutely disagree. I cheated on my first husband. Our relationship has disintegrated and I started sleeping with someone else. We divorced, I had a long term relationship with no cheating and now I'm remarried, with no cheating. So I have now spent almost 20 years and never once cheated on either partner in all that time. So again tell me, once a cheater always a cheater? Maybe some people have a serial cheater propensity but I certainly learned my lesson.
I have cheated in a relationship where the woman was completely and absolutely not a sexual match. She was molested as a child and had so many deep seeded emotional issues. She could not be close to anyone and lacked any kind of intimacy. I dealt with it for years. I felt so bad for her, but after years of being without good sex, no affection, no desire for her to allow affection, I kinda snapped in a way.
On the flip side, I was with a woman for three years and we clicked in every conceivable way. I considered her my "soul mate" and the thought or urge to cheat was not even a remote possibility. I couldn't have cheated on her if I tried.
I put the blame squarely on myself for having cheated. I don't play the blame game, it was my choice and nobody else's. But I believe a lot of people who find themselves in a great relationship would not cheat, ever and those in one that is bad, might. That's why its so important to find someone you can really be close with.
I agree to a certain extent. But if there are extenuating circumstances to why a person cheated, then maybe he/she is not always going to cheat. I know of a person who had extenuating circumstances.
I understand that, but it doesn't mean "once a cheater always a cheater". The lack of trust on your part is based on your own belief, which may have come from personal experience or that of close friends. But I have seen relationships that got passed the cheating and it never happened again.
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. She ended up with an STD and passed it to her husband.
