"Most of the time when a guy is unsuccessful with women, it's because he doesn't try", Agree or disagree? (dating, feeling)

[BradPiff]

My daily poll on the relationship forum, very simple do you agree or disagree with the statement.

Of course a lot of it will come down to your personal idea of what "success" and "trying" means in the context of dating

[lovesMountains]

It's not necessarily because he "doesn't try"

It's because he doesn't do all he can to learn the skills he needs to put forth his best effort.

[krieger00]

Will for me I had to stop feeling sorry for myself and do something about it. I had to stop seeing myself as a loser so other people will see me as a winner.

[intelfan11315]

Certain guys go for women out of their league. Others go for women that have no interest in a guy like them. Others are just plain awkward. Others are judgmental *******s.

There are plenty of reasons for it, none of them being "all women are superficial and mean".

[ocnjgirl]

I disagreed, too. Just like not having success when looking for a job, if you're making the same mistakes over and over, no matter how many times you try it still won't be successful. At some point the guy needs to realize doing the same thing over and over expecting different results is insanity, and he needs to find out what is going wrong and work on fixing it.

[JustJulia]

Either of those would be a huge assumption to make. There's no way to guess whether so many men try or not.

[hooplaman]

The men who keep trying and failing are doing something wrong and have self limiting beliefs. No such things as leagues, that's just your OWN low perception of yourself. In other words that problem is all in their heads.

[Molli]

Could you add another choice: its really doesn't matter to me cause I'm not a guy.

[hawaiiancoconut]

It can be various reasons why a man is unsuccessful with women. But not trying hard enough seems to be the best reason, mee thinks.

[mattywo85]

Because he didn't try hard enough could be one reason. She could playing hard to get, not interested, leading him on, waiting for him to say the right thing, taking her time, etc.