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I have noticed that, during the past few decades, it seems like many women and some men seem to think that a few awkward moments during the early stages of dating a person are complete deal breakers. The problem that I see with that is that a person could be denying him or herself a great & fulfilling relationship with a particular person just because of a few awkward moments early on. I have noticed that young women especially trip out over a few awkward moments more so than young men do.
In my honest opinion, I think that those people out there who are willing to overlook a person or dismiss them entirely as a potential partner over something ridiculous as one or two awkward moments, are people who are either shallow, self-absorbed, narrow minded or all three.
In my last relationship a year ago, there where more than a few awkward moments early on, but the main reason that things didn't work out between me and my girlfriend was the fact that we both realized that we didn't have very many things in common and NOT any of the awkward moments that happened early on.
I honestly think that men and women both need to stop tripping out so much over a few awkward moments and realize that early on in a relationship, those moments are going to happen and not to judge a person entirely based on those few occurrences.
The last thread we had about this, it turned out the OP was referring to stuff like homophobic comments -- which obviously are about incompatibility, not awkwardness.
I think there is a certain cohort of socially inept young people who fear awkwardness more than death.
I agree. I personally think that a few moments of awkwardness are not enough to turn a person away from what could end up being a rewarding and or fulfilling relationship. I believe that those who focus too much on awkward moments are those who end up alone and never meeting that special someone.
I have noticed that, during the past few decades, it seems like many women and some men seem to think that a few awkward moments during the early stages of dating a person are complete deal breakers. The problem that I see with that is that a person could be denying him or herself a great & fulfilling relationship with a particular person just because of a few awkward moments early on. I have noticed that young women especially trip out over a few awkward moments more so than young men do.
In my honest opinion, I think that those people out there who are willing to overlook a person or dismiss them entirely as a potential partner over something ridiculous as one or two awkward moments, are people who are either shallow, self-absorbed, narrow minded or all three.
In my last relationship a year ago, there where more than a few awkward moments early on, but the main reason that things didn't work out between me and my girlfriend was the fact that we both realized that we didn't have very many things in common and NOT any of the awkward moments that happened early on.
I honestly think that men and women both need to stop tripping out so much over a few awkward moments and realize that early on in a relationship, those moments are going to happen and not to judge a person entirely based on those few occurrences.
People these days are so afraid of negative possibilities that they'd gamble rejecting a good person because of a perceived red flag rather than risk dating somebody who may turn out to be undesirable.
And it's a shame that we turned out to be that way.
People these days are so afraid of negative possibilities that they'd gamble rejecting a good person because of a perceived red flag rather than risk dating somebody who may turn out to be undesirable.
And it's a shame that we turned out to be that way.
Of course, this isn't everyone, but I agree with you. Awkward moments will more often than not always occur in the beginning stages of friendships (in my experience), never mind dating.
I have them all the time when dating, and girls do embarrassing things also.
I broke up with my girlfriend Friday morning, met a new girl same day. She came to visit me at the casino while I was playing cards on Saturday and fell on her bike. She showed up with a swollen face and bloody ear lol.
I was just happy she looked pretty hot in yoga pants.
So you state that a person who could be denying himself/herself a great & fulfilling relationship yet your last relationship that had more than a few awkward moments didn't work work due to compatibility issues. Perhaps the person who isn't willing to dismiss awkward moments isn't being shallow, self-absorbed, narrow minded or all three but cluing in on some potential compatibility issues shown by the awkward moments. The person could be or couldn't be a great & fulfilling partner and some people may see the awkward moments as showing more of the person couldn't be the partner they want. In my opinion if one is dissuaded enough by the awkward moments to reject the person then it's more likely that the person couldn't be a great & fulfilling partner.
In my opinion you post seems a bit of the giving a chance mindset and I don't do such as I find it tends to work out horribly as I see it as not actually wanting the person but giving them pity hoping it'll work out.
Also in my opinion it may be suited to judge a person based on those few occurrences if one is seeking a partner they actually desire as that would entail judging if the person is worthwhile for such. I'm a bit unsure why it seems so many people are against being judged for their behavior/words/actions in dating when I find the point would be to judge whether you want to be with the person.
The last thread we had about this, it turned out the OP was referring to stuff like homophobic comments -- which obviously are about incompatibility, not awkwardness.
I agree. Are awkward moments things like accidentally burping, knocking over your wine glass, tripping over the curb as you cross the street? Or are they actions or comments that demonstrate something negative about a person, to which they seem oblivious?
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