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Hey guess what 20 years ago that was what would be considered part of being an "alpha" male. Physical violence wasn't off the table "real men" handled their business.
It's hilarious so called alphas will go off spouting all this feminists butthurt and how men have to play "the game" and how to use their influence when it obvious their own rhetoric hasn't been able to not change what defines "real men"
Come back to this forum in 30 years from now and read he current definition of "real men" as what currently defines it at that time
If you have to read wtf it is to be a freaking man just to maintain your position as something that holds a position of "power" and influence i don't know what to tell you....you're doing it wrong.
Being a man does not mean acting like a woman.
I don't understand how all you betas connect those two.
Men that act like females already have a name, it's called gay.
Being cordial after rejection is fine but I sure as heck am not going to sit there over coffee with my legs crossed and listen to how the girl gets plowed by someone who just showed up onto the scene.
I'm a red-blooded male though, unlike the OP.
Doubtful.
The OP is a man who has discovered that there is more value to a woman than whether or not he's in a romantic relationship with her. Horrors, he's discovered how to have a friend!!!
Being cordial after rejection is fine but I sure as heck am not going to sit there over coffee with my legs crossed and listen to how the girl gets plowed by someone who just showed up onto the scene.
I'm a red-blooded male though, unlike the OP.
Gee and I thought I washed all the excrement off the floor today.
I'm as red-blooded American man as you are, love fishing, guns, NASCAR, the Civil War and Waylon Jennings.
Thankfully, I've never bothered to sit with women who brag to have been "plowed".
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Doubtful.
The OP is a man who has discovered that there is more value to a woman than whether or not he's in a romantic relationship with her. Horrors, he's discovered how to have a friend!!!
True, today at work (aside from being a hair strand away from quitting, and trying to do it without dad riding my case) I thought about this very thing. I have no problem being just friends with women, a lot of the time it worked out. I guess when it comes to dating I'd expected more at this point in my life, to wit at the moment I've found it pretty destitute aside from the occasional attractive woman who happens to like me that blows in once every few months or a year. Got one in tow at least, an old classmate, but she's student-teaching in China. But I'm not sure whether to jump on it because of how this summer is looking.
Graduating college and no gf to be there for me, just family, could be worse.
Would you prefer the less abrasive term "effeminate"?
How about you learn that real men don't either have to run their mouths on a chat forum (OR in real life) advertising how manly they are, nor stoop to the level of calling other men 'effeminate' or 'gay'?
I swear, this crap never stops...people come on here woofing and barking about their dang manhood, and like I have been saying since Hector was a pup, they don't have the spinal column or stones to call someone that out loud to their face, because they'd have to take out a loan for the facial reconstructive surgery they'd need after the epic a**-whoopin' they'd most surely get
Indirect character assassinanation, and baseless assumption about other people, just because they don't fit some comicbook-a** testosterone sipping stereotype, frankly gives me a pain in the darkest, most unreachable crack of my hind-end
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I look at a lot of these threads when I'm not doing schoolwork, and I see some...things. I may not be the Casanova myself, and have had lackluster luck with women. But, here is something I want to share.
Last year there was this girl who worked with me who I had a brief crush on, she worked in the bakery. She rejected me, but that isn't the point. It was afterwards.
For the rest of the summer we became friends, and yeah I took a bit of teasing for asking her out. But here is my philosophy towards this.
Even if she rejected you, treat her fair, treat her with kindness and respect her feelings. Even try to help if you think she needs it, no romantic overtures to it. If you become friends, you can BS with her in some pretty fun ways and you'll both laugh about it. Even if you aren't talking in the future, you can at least know you treated her right.
I think no one will dispute what I've bolded. However, I personally, don't think there is any friendship to be had if a girl rejects me. The sting of the rejection just overrides anything I would try to do with her. At that point, I would just keep any interaction strictly business. It would kill me being that close of a friend with her knowing I want something more and cannot have it because she does not see me like that.
I think no one will dispute what I've bolded. However, I personally, don't think there is any friendship to be had if a girl rejects me. The sting of the rejection just overrides anything I would try to do with her. At that point, I would just keep any interaction strictly business. It would kill me being that close of a friend with her knowing I want something more and cannot have it because she does not see me like that.
Perhaps it's that your personality is so ingrained with your sexuality that you just can't unassociate the two.
Aka: It's how you relate to the opposite sex
Just a thought based on observation of people in my life who can't accept rejection and remain the same character with others.
I think the OP should do whatever makes him happy. If he's cool with making platonic female friends, great. I've had platonic guy friends in the past and it didn't work out, so that's not something that I'm really interested in. I wasn't attracted to those guys though. I'd be cool with being friends with a guy who I was attracted to, but of course I'd probably still hope that things might change some day.
I think this is the reality. The female friends I had in the past I was actually attracted to. They got in relationships and our friendship was toast. After a while I had enough friends too. I even tried to develop some lasting friendships in the last year, and it pseudo worked, till that boyfriend came into the picture. I just couldn't compete with that. I have female acquantances, but I don't really have a female friend I can count on like my male friends. It's just how my friendship cookie crumbled. I can see both sides of the coin and I say do whatever works best for your mental health.
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Hmmm...How About This, Woodrow?
