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I look at a lot of these threads when I'm not doing schoolwork, and I see some...things. I may not be the Casanova myself, and have had lackluster luck with women. But, here is something I want to share.
Last year there was this girl who worked with me who I had a brief crush on, she worked in the bakery. She rejected me, but that isn't the point. It was afterwards.
For the rest of the summer we became friends, and yeah I took a bit of teasing for asking her out. But here is my philosophy towards this.
Even if she rejected you, treat her fair, treat her with kindness and respect her feelings. Even try to help if you think she needs it, no romantic overtures to it. If you become friends, you can BS with her in some pretty fun ways and you'll both laugh about it. Even if you aren't talking in the future, you can at least know you treated her right.
I look at a lot of these threads when I'm not doing schoolwork, and I see some...things. I may not be the Casanova myself, and have had lackluster luck with women. But, here is something I want to share.
Last year there was this girl who worked with me who I had a brief crush on, she worked in the bakery. She rejected me, but that isn't the point. It was afterwards.
For the rest of the summer we became friends, and yeah I took a bit of teasing for asking her out. But here is my philosophy towards this.
Even if she rejected you, treat her fair, treat her with kindness and respect her feelings. Even try to help if you think she needs it, no romantic overtures to it. If you become friends, you can BS with her in some pretty fun ways and you'll both laugh about it. Even if you aren't talking in the future, you can at least know you treated her right.
It seems a lot of people view other people in terms of what they want from them (ie: sex, dating) and if they can't have what they want, they have no further use for that person.
You couldn't have what you ideally wanted, but found she had more than just that to offer (ie: a new friend).
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I look at a lot of these threads when I'm not doing schoolwork, and I see some...things. I may not be the Casanova myself, and have had lackluster luck with women. But, here is something I want to share.
Last year there was this girl who worked with me who I had a brief crush on, she worked in the bakery. She rejected me, but that isn't the point. It was afterwards.
For the rest of the summer we became friends, and yeah I took a bit of teasing for asking her out. But here is my philosophy towards this.
Even if she rejected you, treat her fair, treat her with kindness and respect her feelings. Even try to help if you think she needs it, no romantic overtures to it. If you become friends, you can BS with her in some pretty fun ways and you'll both laugh about it. Even if you aren't talking in the future, you can at least know you treated her right.
You couldn't get her to go out with you so you SETTLED for being the male bestie.
Ridiculous.
Men that truly know their value don't have the time or desire to entertain women that have rejected them.
Glad that you have a new female friend now. Just know that when she finds the right guy that is going
to give it to her the right way....you and the rest of the male bff's are going to be a thought of the past.
Dude....stop giving this chick so much attention and get out there and find a new woman.
Guys that think like you....NEVER get the RESPECT or the WOMAN that they want.
You couldn't get her to go out with you so you SETTLED for being the male bestie.
Ridiculous.
Men that truly know their value don't have the time or desire to entertain women that have rejected them.
Glad that you have a new female friend now. Just know that when she finds the right guy that is going
to give it to her the right way....you and the rest of the male bff's are going to be a thought of the past.
Dude....stop giving this chick so much attention and get out there and find a new woman.
Guys that think like you....NEVER get the RESPECT or the WOMAN that they want.
I know because I used to be one of those guys.
Man up.
I don't think he's trying for her anymore. I think he's just her friend. I see no issue with that. If I were to ask out a girl and she rejected me, I would still be friendly with her and talk to her like nothing happened. I would also date other women.
I see no reason why a guy should get all worked up over a rejection and cut every woman out of his life just because she doesn't want anything romantic with you.
I don't think he's trying for her anymore. I think he's just her friend. I see no issue with that. If I were to ask out a girl and she rejected me, I would still be friendly with her and talk to her like nothing happened. I would also date other women.
I see no reason why a guy should get all worked up over a rejection and cut every woman out of his life just because she doesn't want anything romantic with you.
I guarantee you that if she asked him out on a date (WHICH SHE MOST LIKELY WON'T) he would say yes so fast her head would spin.
The reason why women put men in the friend zone is because we let them.
Nothing wrong with being nice to this woman.
However, he is making a huge mistake if this woman is the only one that he is talking to.
Why should he settle for less than what he wants. I can tell by his last paragraph that he is settling.
He wanted a girlfriend.....she didn't see him as that guy.....and now he has settle for just another guy that is interested in her.
Like I said earlier. Wait till she finds the guy that is going to take care of her the way she wants.
Real men value women's friendship as much as, or more, than their sex.
Desertkid is a real man, USAdork is not. Desertkid is headed towards a much happier, and sexier, life.
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