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So my question is why do women blame other women when their bf/husbands cheat on them ? Most of them time they do not criticize the men as much, and put most of their anger on the other woman.
One of my friend's husband cheated on her. She criticized and cursed out that women instead and asked her to stop calling him, etc.... Well, he did not stop contacting her and she again, contacted the woman, and confronted her. Of course she was angry with the husband too, but to me, she let him off the hook more than he deserves. I mean at the very least, he should be responsible for 50% of the problem.
Well, what I meant to say is women tend to put more energy in "confronting" and "dealing" with the other woman, rather than dealing with the husband/bf.
I am wondering if people have the same observation or experience? And if you are the woman/man being cheated on, and you did this, would you tell me why? And if your confrontation with the other woman bring any relieve or do you get angrier?
I think it's them taking their insecurities out on the other woman. They think their husband/bf see's something in the other woman that she doesn't have. It's a pretty normal and common response. Doesn't make it right though.
I agree the person doing the cheating the relationship should take more than half of the blame. When I was younger, I used to think attacking the other woman was the right thing to do. Thank God I got out of that mentality haha. But most women realize it's the spouse that needs to take the blame and eventually end up breaking up with them. I see more of this in the younger crowd. Older women just cut and run when their spouse cheats.
Yes. A very good example is Angelina Jolie. EVeryone hates her for 'stealing' Brad from Jen. My sister hates her for the very reason. I told her, why are you only angry at her, Brad is to be blamed too and she said ya, him too but she said Angelina is a home wrecker.
While the woman is at fault, the guy is equally guilty.
I think it's them taking their insecurities out on the other woman. They think their husband/bf see's something in the other woman that she doesn't have. It's a pretty normal and common response. Doesn't make it right though.
I agree the person doing the cheating the relationship should take more than half of the blame. When I was younger, I used to think attacking the other woman was the right thing to do. Thank God I got out of that mentality haha. But most women realize it's the spouse that needs to take the blame and eventually end up breaking up with them. I see more of this in the younger crowd. Older women just cut and run when their spouse cheats.
I see this in younger women too. LoL so you were one of those women huh? Well, I was one too. Anyhow, someone I knew is going thru the same thing, but she is not young. Friends keep telling her it's your husband you should deal with, but nope, she has this obsessive thing going on with the other woman.
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Originally Posted by NewbiePoster
idk, I know dudes who've been thrown out for cheating. It doesn't seem like too many women blame the wrong person.
You go after whatever is threatening your marriage aggressively. Then you deal with your spouse over time. The threat has to be removed in order to do that though. This is why I would guess.
Yes. A very good example is Angelina Jolie. EVeryone hates her for 'stealing' Brad from Jen. My sister hates her for the very reason. I told her, why are you only angry at her, Brad is to be blamed too and she said ya, him too but she said Angelina is a home wrecker.
While the woman is at fault, the guy is equally guilty.
Yup, I heard this too. And some of them even give men "excuses" ---like men will always like new experiences, will always have affair, etc......
I am not sure yet how to process these excuses, but ...wow!
Honestly if my husband cheated on me. I only blame him. And we are also over. I am more than willing to give him away to her mistress. I won't even fight any of them. Honestly not worth it.
End of story.
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Yup, I heard this too. And some of them even give men "excuses" ---like men will always like new experiences, will always have affair, etc......
I am not sure yet how to process these excuses, but ...wow!
Wow is right. I can't relate to that stupidity. New experiences..? Having affair acceptable? LOL... talk to the hand
It's because they want to keep their partner, so they can't put all the blame on them. They have to think it was somehow not their fault, maybe.
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