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Just let it roll off your shoulder that she turned you down, don't make an issue of it. Beat off for a while, hit the gym, put some distance in your relationship and make her miss you. Maybe even instill a little dread that other girls find you attractive. Flirt or talk to other girls. You don't need to cheat but be out there The only solution is to reignite her attraction for you. You can't beg, plead, or question your way back into her pants. Desire cannot be negotiated. Desire cannot communicated. It is organic and you must create it and maintain it, or you will lose your girlfriend, wife or fbuddy
I see man. Also, i think part of what was bothering me a lot was that I was lacking connection with her. Conversations were not intellectual at all, she wasn't a very deep thinker.
Had I made that move though the first time she did this, it could have changed things. Is there ever gaining any ground from this stuff or should I just focus on the next relationship?
I see man. Also, i think part of what was bothering me a lot was that I was lacking connection with her. Conversations were not intellectual at all, she wasn't a very deep thinker.
Had I made that move though the first time she did this, it could have changed things. Is there ever gaining any ground from this stuff or should I just focus on the next relationship?
Ask yourself this. Do you want to be with her? Actually her? Or are you just worried it may take some time to find another girl? If you had options on the back burner or were confident you could quickly find a new hottie, I bet we wouldn't be having this conversation, right?
It would be hard, and likely take a complete 180 in your behavior with her to keep her into you and that seems difficult. I would move on man. She seems like a ball of drama and your already nearly out the door.
Ask yourself this. Do you want to be with her? Actually her? Or are you just worried it may take some time to find another girl? If you had options on the back burner or were confident you could quickly find a new hottie, I bet we wouldn't be having this conversation, right?
It would be hard, and likely take a complete 180 in your behavior with her to keep her into you and that seems difficult. I would move on man. She seems like a ball of drama and your already nearly out the door.
I already have a couple numbers and I didn't even ask for them. They've been texting me a lot and show interest. It is the fact that I was hooked up with this girl by my family and there were a lot of expectations, so I think the failure is what's eating at me. Also, the sex thing after the breakup got me thinking, what the hell? You know?
I think she's too high maintenance emotionally for me. She mentioned things how she was her "daddy's princess" growing up and that made me cringe in a way. She's very sweet at times and committed but I think overall the connection isn't really there for me, especially in conversation. She was a big cheerleader throughout college and now coaches and it seems all she has to talk about is immature girl drama. I'd rather put that aside after a long day and just relax.
The 1.5 years invested is another thing too, but where it's kind of fresh I'm trying to sort out my feelings.
I already have a couple numbers and I didn't even ask for them. They've been texting me a lot and show interest. It is the fact that I was hooked up with this girl by my family and there were a lot of expectations, so I think the failure is what's eating at me. Also, the sex thing after the breakup got me thinking, what the hell? You know?
I think she's too high maintenance emotionally for me. She mentioned things how she was her "daddy's princess" growing up and that made me cringe in a way. She's very sweet at times and committed but I think overall the connection isn't really there for me, especially in conversation. She was a big cheerleader throughout college and now coaches and it seems all she has to talk about is immature girl drama. I'd rather put that aside after a long day and just relax.
The 1.5 years invested is another thing too, but where it's kind of fresh I'm trying to sort out my feelings.
It's tough but I think you know what you need to do man. Good luck brotha.
She doesn't know what she wants. That's pretty clear.
But whether her heart is in the right place or not, she's jerking you around. Either she's in a relationship with you or she's not. But this weird limbo you're in with her makes zero sense for you or for her.
She doesn't know what she wants. That's pretty clear.
But whether her heart is in the right place or not, she's jerking you around. Either she's in a relationship with you or she's not. But this weird limbo you're in with her makes zero sense for you or for her.
Well she told me I was the one and she really wanted marriage. I told her I felt a ton of pressure and she blamed her sex issues on the reason why I wouldn't marry her and said she wasn't good enough. I told her that those things cause a lot of people to be miserable so I wanted to continue to work on the relationship and have fun without all of that. Things never really got back on track after that. I felt like she was trying rush into marriage and I could say that I didn't know/don't know what I want. It's hard to tell if marriage with ME was what she wanted or just marriage and the white picket fence especially after a relationship with a guy that abused her. In the back of my mind, I felt I couldn't rely on what she was telling me. The thing that I wonder tho is it she did really love me in that way or if she she wanted a ring to have one.
There were some ups and downs and then downs. I just always felt tension around her like I couldn't relax. When I told her this she said she felt the same from me. The last thing that really just did me in was we were sitting at breakfast having a great time and I told her we should back to my house after and be close. She told me she felt pressured for sex again. That was really my breaking point and she just told me I wasn't patient enough and she was trying.
Maybe I was, however, I can't take that anymore and hopefully can find a girl that isn't that sensitive. She kind of had this prudish behavior about her, real uptight. Didn't get my jokes and would get mad at me if I said something inappropriate. I think I let my family put too much pressure on me. I know now to quit caring so much and work on myself to help the anxiety from these situations
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