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Ok this guy I want to date is strange. He keeps talking to my dad about me. He use to work for my dad, but my dad stopped using him for jobs cause I guess we got too close? Anyways, me and Jake talk here and there and we text sometimes, but I will hear things here and there from my dad, like just the other day my dad said "Jake said he's gonna come over and take you out" I was like "Huh?" Then another time like 5 months ago, my dad looked at me puzzled and he said "Jake said something weird to me, he said you guys have been dating for the past 4 months." I said "That's a lie! I haven't been dating him!" My dad said "Yeah he was probably just joking" But he seemed kinda mad about it. That is when he started to stop using him on jobs. But my dad still talks to him though. My dad just doesn't tell me. Then another time where my my mom told me that Jake said to my dad that I was hot and he wants to take me out. I remember my dad saying to me another time "Jake really likes you" I just don't get it, cause why is Jake saying this to my dad?
I think there is a lot more being said about me, but my dad is not saying it, cause he is just saying things here and there. My dad will sometimes say "Jake wants to go here and there with you" and one time I thought my dad said he said he was going to Morrisville, and I said "Oh Dad are you going to Morrisville?" He said "No, I'm not going where loverboy lives" wtf? When I question my dad he doesn't say anything. I just find it odd, that Jake says all these things about me, but yet he doesn't say it to me. He talks to my dad about it. I am not curious this time, I am really confused and don't know what to think about this. Any insight? Or opinions? Please share. Thank you!
He wants to be close to dad before asking out the daughter. And also, hes aware that dad might be relaying this information to you. I guess, hes too shy to mention all this to you.
It sounds like this Jake guy is too shy to ask you out and he thinks he'll have a better chance of doing so if he's friendly to your Dad and drops hints about his interest in you.
If I was your Dad and Jake was talking to me all the time about my daughter, I'll tell Jake straight out A) if my daughter already had a boyfriend and B) to stop being a wuss and to ask my daughter (you) out. In the latter case, I'd tell him it's not the end of the world if she says no.
BTW, if you want to date Jake, you could always ask HIM out, or if you don't want to be that direct, give more subtle hints that you are interested in him.
One final thing - in your comment above where you said your Dad seemed mad that you and Jake weren't dating, he was probably mad or annoyed at Jake for lying to him or misleading him.
my dad looked at me puzzled and he said "Jake said something weird to me, he said you guys have been dating for the past 4 months." I said "That's a lie! I haven't been dating him!" My dad said "Yeah he was probably just joking" But he seemed kinda mad about it. That is when he started to stop using him on jobs.
Maybe your dad thought this was as uber-creepy as I do.
It sounds like this Jake guy is too shy to ask you out and he thinks he'll have a better chance of doing so if he's friendly to your Dad and drops hints about his interest in you.
If I was your Dad and Jake was talking to me all the time about my daughter, I'll tell Jake straight out A) if my daughter already had a boyfriend and B) to stop being a wuss and to ask my daughter (you) out. In the latter case, I'd tell him it's not the end of the world if she says no.
BTW, if you want to date Jake, you could always ask HIM out, or if you don't want to be that direct, give more subtle hints that you are interested in him.
One final thing - in your comment above where you said your Dad seemed mad that you and Jake weren't dating, he was probably mad or annoyed at Jake for lying to him or misleading him.
Yeah, I agree! And yeah I was kinda mad too! lol. So I can understand my dad's anger cause I was like "WTF?" When I heard that, but then Jake played it off that he was just joking about it. I see now, so you think it's because he's too shy to ask me out? Ok, that makes sense! lol. Thank you for commenting, and for your input!
Maybe your dad thought this was as uber-creepy as I do.
Yeah it kinda was, lol. I think so too! But Jake tried to play it off that he was joking, but I think he was more "joking on a square" Thank you for commenting!
He wants to be close to dad before asking out the daughter. And also, hes aware that dad might be relaying this information to you. I guess, hes too shy to mention all this to you.
You really think so? Jake has asked me out a couple of times, but I rejected him cause he worked for my dad, and I didn't want to be involved in that. You know how they say "don't mix business with pleasure" or "Don't date the boss's daughter" I just didn't want to ruin anything, and that is why I rejected him, plus my dad stopped using for jobs, and it seemed like my dad started doing that, cause me and Jake were getting close, and talking and texting almost everyday, and probably Jake said something and my dad got weirded out by it, haha. But thank you!
Yeah it kinda was, lol. I think so too! But Jake tried to play it off that he was joking, but I think he was more "joking on a square" Thank you for commenting!
You really think so? Jake has asked me out a couple of times, but I rejected him cause he worked for my dad, and I didn't want to be involved in that. You know how they say "don't mix business with pleasure" or "Don't date the boss's daughter" I just didn't want to ruin anything, and that is why I rejected him, plus my dad stopped using for jobs, and it seemed like my dad started doing that, cause me and Jake were getting close, and talking and texting almost everyday, and probably Jake said something and my dad got weirded out by it, haha. But thank you!
The bolded part is the reason why Jake is hesitant to ask you out again (even though your reasons were reasonable and fair), and why he's trying to get feelers from your Dad. Most guys dislike rejection as much as most women do.
If I were you I'd contact Jake and ask him if he'd like to do something that is non-threatening but isn't a date. Perhaps you can ask him to join you on a group activity both of you would enjoy. You could also ask him if he'd like to meet for lunch or get together to go to local museum or something similar that indicates interest but doesn't come across as too bold.
BTW, speaking as a guy who until recently has generally been shy around women and fearful of rejection, if a girl I was interested in indicated she had interest in me, I'd be thrilled and happy that she expressed interest.
The bolded part is the reason why Jake is hesitant to ask you out again (even though your reasons were reasonable and fair), and why he's trying to get feelers from your Dad. Most guys dislike rejection as much as most women do.
If I were you I'd contact Jake and ask him if he'd like to do something that is non-threatening but isn't a date. Perhaps you can ask him to join you on a group activity both of you would enjoy. You could also ask him if he'd like to meet for lunch or get together to go to local museum or something similar that indicates interest but doesn't come across as too bold.
BTW, speaking as a guy who until recently has generally been shy around women and fearful of rejection, if a girl I was interested in indicated she had interest in me, I'd be thrilled and happy that she expressed interest.
True! Thank you so much for the advice! I appreciate it! It does make sense that he would talk to my dad after me rejecting him. Well he talked to my dad before asking me out, but still he doesn't talk to me as much as he does with my dad, so I see what you're saying. Thanks!
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