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I met this guy a few weeks ago on a long flight to South America and we ended up talking most of the trip. We live about 45 min away from each other and based on our great conversation - and confirmation on both ends we were single - I was half expecting him to ask for my number or something when we got off the plane. The circumstances were such that we sort of went our separate ways abruptly without really saying goodbye and so I figured that was that, however he's been on my mind a lot lately and I can't seem to shake it off.
I decided to try and find him online and the only place I could track him down was on LinkedIn (no picture, but the name and life stats match). I'd like to reach out, but I can't decide if messaging him on that site would make me come off creepy since LinkedIn isn't exactly the best or obvious forum for personal matters.
Thoughts? Just trying to get an outsider's perspective since, although I thought he felt similarly at the time, I really have no idea if this will be out of the blue for him or not and I haven't done something like this before. Thanks!
I met this guy a few weeks ago on a long flight to South America and we ended up talking most of the trip. We live about 45 min away from each other and based on our great conversation - and confirmation on both ends we were single - I was half expecting him to ask for my number or something when we got off the plane. The circumstances were such that we sort of went our separate ways abruptly without really saying goodbye and so I figured that was that, however he's been on my mind a lot lately and I can't seem to shake it off.
I decided to try and find him online and the only place I could track him down was on LinkedIn (no picture, but the name and life stats match). I'd like to reach out, but I can't decide if messaging him on that site would make me come off creepy since LinkedIn isn't exactly the best or obvious forum for personal matters.
Thoughts? Just trying to get an outsider's perspective since, although I thought he felt similarly at the time, I really have no idea if this will be out of the blue for him or not and I haven't done something like this before. Thanks!
You've got nothing to lose - I say go for it!
Just write you post in a "professional" sounding voice so it won't look stalkerish on that site
I would do it! And I would make it very clear that it was ok if he said 'no'.
Something like, 'Hello, it was very nice to meet you on the flight to Wherever. I hope you don't mind me messaging you. I think it might be fun to keep in touch, but if you'd rather not, that is fine, too.'
IMO, all you have to do on LinkedIn is make the contact, and ask him for his email # once he's accepted your link invite. Who cares if it's creepy; you have no other way to reach him, so it's either try this or forget about him completely. The worst that can happen is he'll decline to respond. I don't think it's creepy.
That happens all the time, people from your past friending you on facebook, I get contacts all the time on Linkedin, it's perfectly normal. Just say that you really enjoyed the conversation you had, and wanted to continue, but never had the opportunity to get the phone number. If the conversation was good enough that you stalked him...j/k....then I'm sure it's mutual. The guy wouldn't have told you he was single if he wasn't interested, that's the easiest and painless way of getting out of a conversation.
I'm basically in agreement with everyone else, just do it! It really is common for people to add people they met through FB, Linkedin, etc. It seems like he was into you, so you should be okay if you just tell him who you are, and what not.
A flight from South America to what I am assuming is the US is a LONG flight. The guy was locked into a seat next to the OP, who could be misconstruing his politeness for ... attraction.
Also, it seems like the guy had plenty of opportunities to exchange numbers if he wanted to. It's not as if it's a big surprise when the plane lands.
So, OP, as long as you consider these things ^^^, I say go for it, but keep your message short and benign, as in, "Hi, just checking to see if you were the Joe Blow who sat next to me on the flight from Santiago."
I met this guy a few weeks ago on a long flight to South America and we ended up talking most of the trip. We live about 45 min away from each other and based on our great conversation - and confirmation on both ends we were single - I was half expecting him to ask for my number or something when we got off the plane. The circumstances were such that we sort of went our separate ways abruptly without really saying goodbye and so I figured that was that, however he's been on my mind a lot lately and I can't seem to shake it off.
I decided to try and find him online and the only place I could track him down was on LinkedIn (no picture, but the name and life stats match). I'd like to reach out, but I can't decide if messaging him on that site would make me come off creepy since LinkedIn isn't exactly the best or obvious forum for personal matters.
Thoughts? Just trying to get an outsider's perspective since, although I thought he felt similarly at the time, I really have no idea if this will be out of the blue for him or not and I haven't done something like this before. Thanks!
I wouldn't do it. But I'm old fashioned. I figure if he wanted to stay in touch, he would have made it known.
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