I'd rather be honestly dumped than fed a line of b***s***

[Lilac110]

Originally Posted by Stockyman

Bad idea because it can really devastate a person if the truth was told. Can you imagine the result in some scenarios if the person was honest.

"Sorry, but your penis is too small"

"Sorry, but you are horrible at sex"

"Sorry, but I just don't find you physically attractive anymore"

"Sorry, but I prefer larger breasts"

Sometimes it's better to lie to spare a person's feelings.

Originally Posted by Frihed89

The good news:

You're boring.
I found someone else.
You're superficial.
You're lousy at sex.
You were just a fling.
I'm gay.
I found out you......

and many more.

Only people who are completely and utterly lacking in social graces would say something like that. There are ways to provide a reason without sounding like a callous douchecanoe. Really.

Try, "I don't feel that we click in ways that are important to me in a relationship."

Come on, now. Think.

[ScoopSeeker]

Personally, I'd rather have a little white lie than have someone "ghost" on me. At least, they have enough respect to tell me they want out, even if the reason is b.s. What's really heartless is when they start ignoring your calls/texts and just disappear into thin air. That really hurts. I'd take a little white lie over that any day.

[psichick]

Originally Posted by ScoopSeeker

Personally, I'd rather have a little white lie than have someone "ghost" on me. At least, they have enough respect to tell me they want out, even if the reason is b.s. What's really heartless is when they start ignoring your calls/texts and just disappear into thin air. That really hurts. I'd take a little white lie over that any day.

Pretty much this^^^^

I told my XH most of the truth. Guess what he told his friends. It sure as heck wasn't what I told him. Actually, what he told his friends is exactly what I stressed was NOT the reason. And yet what he told them was a made up lie to protect himself because he didn't want to admit that 1. he was partially at fault and 2. I left for reasons that made him look bad.

So, let's be real. Even if they say the truth, what difference does it make? Most people will still save face and lie when asked, "what happened?" I doubt most men would say, "she dumped me because I'm a selfish self-centered arse". Yeah, whatevers.