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If you can't attract the women you're attracted to, then how can you not feel like a loser, especially if you have a deep desire for love? You've lost out on an essential human experience because you weren't genetically healthy enough and/or materially successful enough.
If you can attract and appreciate a woman who feels like a loser..........................
One loser plus one loser equals two winners but one winner plus one winner often equals two losers.
this is an excellent question. i will try to answer.
i do not get my sense of worth by conquest of women.
i get my sense of worth by kindness, appreciation and involvement with cats, plants & art.
when i finally figured this out, the line of women formed outside my door.
and i am 66 years old LOL.
i guess better late than never.
...because you weren't genetically healthy enough and/or materially successful enough.
You are limiting yourself with these labels: "genetically [un]healthy" and not "materially successful enough". You've made these judgments about yourself, based only partly on your experience. Another person might well come to a different conclusion and adjust their behavior accordingly, based on the same experience as you've had.
You are doing this to yourself because you don't feel worthy enough. Why? Answer the question and you'll find a solution.
If you can't attract the women you're attracted to, then how can you not feel like a loser, especially if you have a deep desire for love? You've lost out on an essential human experience because you weren't genetically healthy enough and/or materially successful enough.
Honestly, it is difficult to answer questions phrased like this. There is such a combination of sadness, desperation, frustration and hopelessness in it, I just feel like any suggestion I might try to give will get thrown back in my face.
this is an excellent question. i will try to answer.
i do not get my sense of worth by conquest of women.
i get my sense of worth by kindness, appreciation and involvement with cats, plants & art.
when i finally figured this out, the line of women formed outside my door.
and i am 66 years old LOL.
i guess better late than never.
I always do my part to make sure guys like you are welcomed and feel just as much part of the action as you ever were before as well. It's part of my character.
You've lost out on an essential human experience because you weren't genetically healthy enough and/or materially successful enough.
And you made it to an egg while millions of other sperms cells from the same ejaculation ceased to evolve, while you at least were givien the opportunity to live life as a human - although with the possibility of not experience the level and/or type of romantic experiences that you want.
As usual. . . .
Life is not fair.
Embrace that fact and it will lead you on the path you were always meant to travel on.
Sky-O
Last edited by Skydive Outlaw; 05-19-2014 at 10:50 PM..
If you can attract and appreciate a woman who feels like a loser..........................
One loser plus one loser equals two winners but one winner plus one winner often equals two losers.
that's Deep !! Quite a philosophical statement....
OP, get a hobby. Find some things to do that you can enjoy. Over time, hopefully you teach yourself to be ok alone. Some reach such mental state, some don't. Good luck, it is a difficult road.
Look I'm a religious man, don't believe in any of this stuff I'm about to write. It's just saddening to me to see people without a sense of purpose. So, I will give you purpose. You are an atheist and look everything through the eyes of evolution. Fine. I'm not going to give you a platitude as you call them.
So survival of the species depends on being fit and being sexually selected. Being fit for us humans is pretty simple: you typed something so I assume you are not writing from the great beyond and as a result you are fit. Congratulations. Now, your problem is sexual selection. Will you pass your genes on? Not a problem I struggle with but an existential problem for you.
Here is the solution. Marry pretty much any woman who will have you and can procreate. Remember, this isn't about love it's about passing your genes on. Now, when you have children I suggest having many children. Who knows which will be genetically superior or inferior to others and you can't have all your eggs in one basket. Then make them drink tons of milk, get involved sports, do well in school. You know do those things you never did in life, clearly. This way they will grow into strong, tall, competitive alpha males. Then they will be able to marry the models you could never marry. This is great because your genes have not only been passed on but now you have passed your genes onto a superior gene group who will be both fit and sexually selected.
There, you have purpose now. Go live life.
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What a fun type to work with.
