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Are you saying you think you look good or you think you don't look good??
That may have something to do with your broken picker.
Personally I think I'm okay, average... I do have self esteem stuff which I'm slowly working on, unfortunately I've had a few crummy relationships that haven't helped me to feel fabulous...they have, however, taught me that not everything is my fault and sometimes other people are just jerks.
That has brought to me to the point where I can say, I am going to make an effort to be better at me and maybe have some success at finding someone who is a good partner for me instead of what I picked in the past.
So you say you are hot and all the guys you date your age just want to hit it with you? FWB??
I'm not to sure what to think.
Umm no, I think I was joking about the way I see myself. I'm honest with myself, at least.
The relationships I have had haven't been the kind I've really wanted to have, they haven't lasted, and I think one of the reasons is that they haven't been ready for anything other than a replay of a high school relationship kind of thing.
The good [older] ones are already married. It's tough luck.
Not always true ^ , Some of us are good guys. We're hard to find. You and the OP need to work on staying positive and being the best person you can be, keep yourself in decent shape and be picky, don't settle. Also take your time getting to know someone.
Good luck
But, here is my problem. I want to date, but I have issues with the fact that so many guys my age or older who are single seem to be stuck in an adolescent mindset. Like they want an fwb but no commitment, and no responsibility.
Believe men, commitment-minded women younger than you have it even worse.
I doubt this has anything to do with how you look, or anything else about you. There is this notion out there that most men would happily commit to monogamous, LTRs if they could just find the right women. In my opinion, that notion is 100% false.
What you need to understand is that for most men, a committed, LTR is not the best of all possible worlds. For most men, FWB is the best of all possible worlds. In a FWB, a man gets all the benefits of a committed, LTR, but none of the responsibility. FWB is the ultimate win/win situation for men. Committed, LTR are just something men sometimes have to settle for because they have limited options.
Note: YES, I KNOW THERE ARE EXCEPTIONS!!!! Some men genuinely desire committed, LTR. I am speaking generally, not categorically.
Not always true ^ , Some of us are good guys. We're hard to find. You and the OP need to work on staying positive and being the best person you can be, keep yourself in decent shape and be picky, don't settle. Also take your time getting to know someone.
Good luck
I will echo the other posters in that you need to work on your self-esteem and to have a positive outlook.
Some of your posts tend to be self-deprecatory which doesn't help ... if you don't like yourself then who would?
Your picker isn't broken if you have split from the men you were seeing. If you were to stick it out then you may have an issue. I have a friend who is seeing some religous Wacko-Think David Karesh with the world ending in December of 2015 kind of guy. She's planning on creating a life with the guy. I told her you won't have to worry about anything since the world is ending in December anyway
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