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I had a date last week with someone I met online. I actually saw him in person a few times before and thought he was physically attractive, but I never got to meet him or talk to him. Even his pictures are very handsome, but last week when I sat across from him, I was immediately disappointed when I met him. I hate to say that because I was the one who came to the date nervous and worried that he wouldn't like me, but it turned out to be the opposite. I was the confident one and he ended up being more attracted to me.
Somehow up close, he didn't look as handsome as his photos. He must be one of those that are very photogenic but don't look as good in person. Funny thing is I was attracted to him IRL when I saw him from far away and when I saw his whole body moving. Once he started talking, I wasn't attracted to him anymore. His demeanor was a little goofy and I can tell he was somewhat tense. I asked most of the questions, he would answer, but he rarely returned the questions on me. As soon as he stood up from his seat, and I saw him moving, he became more attractive again. A good body and posture makes a difference.
Before our date, I fell for his online personality. His messages showed that he had a likable personality, however, when I met him in person, he was very different. His profile did say that he's quiet at first, but opens up eventually.
He did say he found me very attractive and was charmed by me, and that he was nervous because he found me really attractive. So even though I was disappointed in our first meeting, I'm willing to meet him again and see if his true personality will come out.
1) Do second dates get any better?
2) If someone's online personality is great, will this eventually show through in real life?
Different schools of thought here, but IF he asks you out again, then you should at least go. If he's that awkward or didn't like YOU then it's a non-issue, because he won't ask.
My OLD experience was that you generally know pretty quickly whether there is any compatibility with someone; the concept of people coming out of their shell, or their personality blooming like a beautiful flower is not consistent with reality.
When I met my bf for the first time, I kinda liked him. Sat next to him and didn't see his face much. He wore a shirt that I didn't like (I hate checkered shirts). His movements were weird. He acted dorky and nerdy. The date went okay, nothing too special for me. Almost didn't want to meet him again.
When we met the second time, he wore a Tshirt, looked totally different, I saw his eyes and fell for him hard. I could hardly breathe and think clearly.
Before our date, I fell for his online personality. His messages showed that he had a likable personality, however, when I met him in person, he was very different. His profile did say that he's quiet at first, but opens up eventually.
Based off him saying this, I think you should give him another chance. It's very rare your true personality shows on the first date. Give him some time to show it.
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