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Love is often said to be illogical and have no reason to it.~
Often I learned that some people say when their lover asked them why they loved them, they said, "I don't have a reason, I just love you."
It that is true, then if some one actually has a reason to love you, do they really love you for you or for some aspect about you?
Aspects can be found in any one.~
If they love you for your aspects: are you just a collection of aspects?
What if some one with the same aspect or aspects they love about you met them first, would they love them instead?
Beautiful question.
This is one of those issues where the more you think about it, the more likely it will drive you insane. I'd say Love is illogical and occurs regardless of reason. The answer to some of your other questions is yes and no.
If we focus on the aspects of a person and consider them in a reply to why we love them, maybe it is not a collection (or check list) of aspects we love, but the specific amalgumation of those aspects in the particular object of our affection. The combination of everything that makes them who they are. What makes them a unique individual in other words, and not just a combination of desirable traits.
I think there's something more about us each that makes us all unique whether or not we are a sum total of aspects, but they all have to relate to one another. In other words, that sum total cannot be copied and cannot be replicated.
We are a sum total of our past experiences, current circumstances, and how we envision ourselves in our future. The way we think, the way we feel, the way we view the world, the way we interact with the world..are all very unique.
If a person like Drew Berrymore lost their memory and fell in love all over again with the same person, we're also assuming that some aspect of her doesn't change.
In the case of dementia and Alzheimer's, the inability to retain memory can affect how we love and if we can love. Assuming a person no longer possess mirror neurons necessary for empathy, their ability to love changes because their mental deterioration and capabilities to interact with the world makes them a completely different person, a dying self.
Love happens on an experiential level.. On a conscious level, love relates to having some form of awareness even if our nonverbals pick up on the unconscious cues of the other person. Personally, love is about the whole essence/aura of a person who relates to us on some level of wavelength we're both on. Love is like a gravitational pull where the attraction feels so natural and we're intrinsically attracted to their energy, who they are. Somehow a part of us wants to care for them, because it feels like a promise or purpose that makes both partners a better person in life. The pain of losing them is also the pleasure in knowing them, sharing with them all the hardships and rewards one endures in our own personal journeys on this planet, and for some, beyond that (valued as a spiritual connection).
That was beautiful!~ ^_^
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Originally Posted by TJenkins602
Beautiful question.
This is one of those issues where the more you think about it, the more likely it will drive you insane. I'd say Love is illogical and occurs regardless of reason. The answer to some of your other questions is yes and no.
Good to think about, actually.
Exactly!~ ^_^ I'm so glad you understand the point of this thread!~ ^_^ :O) Just thinking about this kind of thing feels so wonderful!~
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Originally Posted by Checkered24
Interesting question.
If we focus on the aspects of a person and consider them in a reply to why we love them, maybe it is not a collection (or check list) of aspects we love, but the specific amalgumation of those aspects in the particular object of our affection. The combination of everything that makes them who they are. What makes them a unique individual in other words, and not just a combination of desirable traits.
Beautiful answer!~ ^-^
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