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Okay so basically my girlfriend wants to break up over me.checking out other girls. But the thing is I dont, i look at everyone the same way. But she only calls me out on it when she thinks its someone she finds attractive. Shes like why wer you staring at her blah blah and our whole day is ruined because of that. I dont stare though, i look for like 2 seconds lmao, when i do is when i dont realize what im looking at and when I do i look away right away. And I swear to youu nothing even goes on in my mind when it happens. Im not oogling over other woman or anything, i dont even watch porn lol... all im doing is looking at my sorrundings basically and i get accused of checking out for it,
She tells me that all of this is bringing her self esteem really low. And i make her feel like the ugliest person in the room. We fought about it so many times, and she even cried about it. But she just doesnt believe that im not interested in anyone else, or how i look at everyone the same way. Shes like theres different reasons why youd look at a guy and a girl.i even try to avoid looking at anyone the opposite gender and at the end of the day im still accused of it lol. Its a bad habit that im.trying to stop, but i think its to far that she wants to break up over,
I really love this girl, and i woudnt want to lose her.. what should i tell her..
Bottom line, she doesn't feel good with you and she wants to feel good with her mate. She has a right to leave and you should let her. If the issue rests with her as irrational insecurity, she will soon find that out.
Okay so basically my girlfriend wants to break up over me.checking out other girls. But the thing is I dont, i look at everyone the same way. But she only calls me out on it when she thinks its someone she finds attractive. Shes like why wer you staring at her blah blah and our whole day is ruined because of that. I dont stare though, i look for like 2 seconds lmao, when i do is when i dont realize what im looking at and when I do i look away right away. And I swear to youu nothing even goes on in my mind when it happens. Im not oogling over other woman or anything, i dont even watch porn lol... all im doing is looking at my sorrundings basically and i get accused of checking out for it,
She tells me that all of this is bringing her self esteem really low. And i make her feel like the ugliest person in the room. We fought about it so many times, and she even cried about it. But she just doesnt believe that im not interested in anyone else, or how i look at everyone the same way. Shes like theres different reasons why youd look at a guy and a girl.i even try to avoid looking at anyone the opposite gender and at the end of the day im still accused of it lol. Its a bad habit that im.trying to stop, but i think its to far that she wants to break up over,
I really love this girl, and i woudnt want to lose her.. what should i tell her..
It's her issues, not yours. She sounds like the female version of Ike turner. What do you think the future will hold if she is that jealous? I hear what you are saying too. You don't even know if they are pretty until you look that way. Then when you do, you quickly look away without thinking. What more can you do? You shouldn't be doing anything different anyway, since you are not doing anything wrong. She has too many of her own issues. You have to ask yourself, do you want to pet her every insecurity all day everyday for the rest of your life? This is what you have to ask yourself. Let's hope that she can fix it, but I highly doubt it. And if she can't, can you deal with it? Good luck.
Just tell her that if you were unattracted to her, or found her ugly, you wouldn't be dating her.
She just sounds very insecure and possessive. Unless you are dead, or blind, it's natural to be attracted to other people. Like her, ask her if she was ever attracted to anyone other than you, even if it's before you met her. If she was, then that shows you can be attracted to more than 1 person, or notice someone good-looking, and she apparently isn't unhappy with you, despite having found other men attractive.
If she is going to make that big a deal of it, maybe you should let her go. She'll spend a good chunk of her life alone if she can't handle dating someone that notices other people. Everyone is going to do that.
Otherwise, if you wanna keep her, you're going to have to avoid people and never look at anyone again, which is not possible. lol So, she sounds unreasonable in this regard, and there's no room for compromise. In which case, the relationship is already looking grim.
Just tell her that if you were unattracted to her, or found her ugly, you wouldn't be dating her.
She just sounds very insecure and possessive. Unless you are dead, or blind, it's natural to be attracted to other people. Like her, ask her if she was ever attracted to anyone other than you, even if it's before you met her. If she was, then that shows you can be attracted to more than 1 person, or notice someone good-looking, and she apparently isn't unhappy with you, despite having found other men attractive.
If she is going to make that big a deal of it, maybe you should let her go. She'll spend a good chunk of her life alone if she can't handle dating someone that notices other people. Everyone is going to do that.
Otherwise, if you wanna keep her, you're going to have to avoid people and never look at anyone again, which is not possible. lol So, she sounds unreasonable in this regard, and there's no room for compromise. In which case, the relationship is already looking grim.
Exactly^^^. I think it would get worse and worse if she were that insecure. You can't tell people who or what they can look at. It's one thing if you have no tact, and you are starring at every women that walks by. But he's not doing this. You also can't be mad at them for something as innocent as glancing at someone. We all do it. It's human to notice attractive people. She's being very ridiculous and what she's asking is even more bizarre. This will take it's toll. So the question is, if she can't change, which I suspect she won't be able to, can you deal with this and if you could for how long? I know that I couldn't and that most likely many others wouldn't be able to either.
Shes the most beautiful girl ever, i dont get why shed be insecure... i always tell her more than once a day and that shes perfect, but she doesnt believe me lol...
Shes the most beautiful girl ever, i don't get why shed be insecure... i always tell her more than once a day and that shes perfect, but she doesn't believe me lol...
OP:
She needs to get to the bottom of why she is insecure.
Then she needs to do something productive about it.
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