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Originally Posted by Sex Money Murda
This is the first relationship I ever had. I just had casual stuff before this.
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That's the issue then. A casual relationship is with people you don't care about. Sex is all there is. When you care for someone, and are dating them, it takes more effort than screwing someone, then telling them to get lost afterwards.
That's why casual is so popular nowadays. It's the fun parts of a committed relationship, but without all the relationship drama, and you're technically still single, thus you don't have any loyalty, or responsibility to the other party.
So, there's the problem. You're used to casual, so you're used to getting by with the behavior of not having to work much. Sure, you date your girlfriend, but simply sleeping with her, and being around her doesn't show or mean you care.
A guy I know been with a girl for almost 1 year. She likes him, but he is clear in the fact he doesn't like her. He just wants her body, and she's willing to do anything for him, sexually. So he calls her, and they talk, but it's always sexual and vulgar on his end. She tries to be his friend, he doesn't care for it. Plus, he has a girlfriend he's been with you 5 years. So, that's 2 women he disrespects, even though he's there with, and sleeping with, both of them.
So, that's probably where your girl is. She wants to know you actually care for her, she can talk to you if she has issues, come to you for comfort, and it's not simply sex you care about.
So, like stated, you don't need to turn into Dan Juan off the bat. Try doing some small things to show her you care.
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