Why do guys do this???

[Smetenjak]

Originally Posted by bebe182

So this has happened to me a couple of times. I meet a guy off the dating site I'm on, we have a first date/meet it goes pretty well, I don't hear from them and then a couple of months down the road they start excessivley looking at my profile again. I guess I don't get it because I'm the kind of girl who meets you if its not mutual, I move on....I don't stalk your profile months down the road, cause chances are I have forgotten about you!

So I met a guy back in January, thought our first date went well, I was a bit shy but we still had good conversation...the next day after the date I texted him to tell him I had a good time (which I usually don't do, but just wanted to let him know I was interested in case he didn't get that impression), I got back a cold response, and that was it. So in the past couple of weeks he's been viewing my profile again, and this past weekend he's looked at it about 3 times. It seems more than just sheer curiosity, I just don't get it, if you weren't interested in me 4 months ago, you're not going to be interested in me now. Oh well, just had to vent!

BTW I'm sure women do this as well.

I think they are masturbating with fantasy of possible sex they could have.

[Spatula City]

Originally Posted by Smetenjak

I think they are masturbating with fantasy of possible sex they could have.

Yes, definitely this.
He is also imagining all of your friends and family naked.

[Aggiebuttercup]

I met my husband on OK Cupid.

We went out on one date. A few days later I got a brush-off email.
Three months later he emailed me and asked what he could do to get back in my good graces.

Turns out he was talking to another woman when I messaged him originally, and his mother convinced him to keep his options open and go out with me too. He felt guilty seeing two women at once and brushed me off. The other one fizzled a few weeks later...a few months later he decided he was done dating, but he felt guilty about not really giving me a chance and wanted to see if there was something there.

I decided that since we weren't exclusive on that first date and he was polite about the whole thing, that it was worth giving him another chance. We chatted on the phone every night for 3 weeks before our schedules worked out that we could have a second first date. That really helped too - he had to be semi-serious or he wouldn't be spending so much time getting to know me.

13 months later we got married.

[bebe182]

Originally Posted by Aggiebuttercup

I met my husband on OK Cupid.

We went out on one date. A few days later I got a brush-off email.
Three months later he emailed me and asked what he could do to get back in my good graces.

Turns out he was talking to another woman when I messaged him originally, and his mother convinced him to keep his options open and go out with me too. He felt guilty seeing two women at once and brushed me off. The other one fizzled a few weeks later...a few months later he decided he was done dating, but he felt guilty about not really giving me a chance and wanted to see if there was something there.

I decided that since we weren't exclusive on that first date and he was polite about the whole thing, that it was worth giving him another chance. We chatted on the phone every night for 3 weeks before our schedules worked out that we could have a second first date. That really helped too - he had to be semi-serious or he wouldn't be spending so much time getting to know me.

13 months later we got married.

That's great! however your husband was actively trying to pursue you 3 months later. This guy just merely viewed my dating profile a couple of times 5 months after we met, so not even remotely enough for me to consider even giving him a second thought! Lol