When a guy starts to open up

[NVplumber]

Originally Posted by collegeguy35

I am a man yes he is into and he trust you. Most men do not open up unless it is a woman they care deeply for. It is very hard for men to open up and trust. It may take awhile for him to sort out his romantic feelings however.

True. I know, as a man, opening up about some things does not come easy. Or quickly. There were things I had not discussed in detail with my girl, even though I trust her with my soul. I didn't open them all the way up because I bad trouble discussing them with myself. A certain incident in our lives changed that, and I let it all go in a counseling session. Not for my benefit, but hers. I wanted her to know how much I love and need her, how implicitly I trust her, and that there is no cross I won't bear for/with her.

Now, mine is a deeply committed relationship. Where the OP is is just the beginning. ANY opening up should not be taken for granted, however. Not if you plan to pursue the relationship. So let him open up. Maybe open up a little yourself. One step at a time.

[funymann]

Just be careful what you do with the information opened up to you.

He is testing you in a sense to see if you will keep it confidential or blab his life over an Internet foru.....


Never mind.

[NewbiePoster]

Originally Posted by Newlove88

I'm seeing a guy and we really have a deep connection. Last night on the phone, he opened up to me about what his dad does. He told me his dad is a pastor, how he grew up as a PK, and how hard it was for him. Does this mean he's really into me since he's starting to share about his emotions?

I knew a dude who used personal disclosure like this as an m.o. to get women. They took it as a sign that he was into them, so they'd start to get more intimate with him. Only you can decide if he was above board with this or not.

[EdgeCity]

Originally Posted by NewbiePoster

I knew a dude who used personal disclosure like this as an m.o. to get women. They took it as a sign that he was into them, so they'd start to get more intimate with him. Only you can decide if he was above board with this or not.

This is definitely a risk. But to be more optimistic, and to directly answer OP's question, yes this is a sign of healthy communication.

However, just because a guy can open up about his family hardly means that he is ready and game for a long term relationship, or is LTR material for you.

The best course of action is to continue to date, take it slow and be honest and open with one another.