Are cooking & cleaning marriage privileges? (wife, boyfriend, how to, women)
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Do you think it is perhaps an unwise or unhealthy decision for a woman to cook and clean for her boyfriend, assuming they are both in a long term relationship, not living together and these are not his expectations (she does it out of desire, not expectation or obligation).
I don't understand rules on links on here so I guess I won't post a link but I was reading a question on another website where a young girl said she cooks and cleans for her boyfriend, but they do not belong together. All of the responses (females) said that what she's doing is a no-no, those are wife privileges and it leads a man to think "why buy the cow when I can get the milk for free?"
Do you think it's wrong for a woman do to that?
This isn't about me either. I love cooking and baking and I've baked peanut butter chocolate chip cookies for the guy I'm seeing. He used them to make ice cream sandwiches ha. But I see nothing wrong with a woman cooking or cleaning for her man, as long as he is taking care of her (emotionally, physically, sexually, and also helps her out). As long as it's done out of the kindness of your heart and not because you feel as though it's your duty.
But I do plan on cooking and cleaning once I get married. That's a no brainer to me. Call me old fashioned but I think if the husband is the bread winner then he should be able to come home to a warm meal and clean house. Just my opinion.
Back to original question, bad for a bf/gf situation?
Do you think it is perhaps an unwise or unhealthy decision for a woman to cook and clean for her boyfriend, assuming they are both in a long term relationship, not living together and these are not his expectations (she does it out of desire, not expectation or obligation).
I don't understand rules on links on here so I guess I won't post a link but I was reading a question on another website where a young girl said she cooks and cleans for her boyfriend, but they do not belong together. All of the responses (females) said that what she's doing is a no-no, those are wife privileges and it leads a man to think "why buy the cow when I can get the milk for free?"
Do you think it's wrong for a woman do to that?
This isn't about me either. I love cooking and baking and I've baked peanut butter chocolate chip cookies for the guy I'm seeing. He used them to make ice cream sandwiches ha. But I see nothing wrong with a woman cooking or cleaning for her man, as long as he is taking care of her (emotionally, physically, sexually, and also helps her out). As long as it's done out of the kindness of your heart and not because you feel as though it's your duty.
But I do plan on cooking and cleaning once I get married. That's a no brainer to me. Call me old fashioned but I think if the husband is the bread winner then he should be able to come home to a warm meal and clean house. Just my opinion.
Back to original question, bad for a bf/gf situation?
What's "right" for one couple won't always be right for another.
I would suggest you wait until you are actually engaged and planning marriage to dialogue with your then fiance to decide how the two of you envision living your lives together.
What's "right" for one couple won't always be right for another.
I would suggest you wait until you are actually engaged and planning marriage to dialogue with your then fiance to decide how the two of you envision living your lives together.
^^^^ Agreed. ^^^^
There are no hard rules or "shoulds" for how couples divvy up the chores.
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It's up to her if she wants to be a maid.Many ladies that feel they need to be "needed"do this.
Wash your own boxers I say!
A maid? Even if they switched between cleaning the house they'd both be maids. And maids are paid, cleaning a house has to happen at some point unless you're comfortable living in filth
What's "right" for one couple won't always be right for another.
I would suggest you wait until you are actually engaged and planning marriage to dialogue with your then fiance to decide how the two of you envision living your lives together.
This has nothing to do with me. And I certainly wouldn't ask for validation on whether it's appropriate for my relationship or not.
I was simply surprised at the amount of hate the girl seemed to be getting.
All I stated is how I would ideally run my household. I'd only marry a guy who shared my values so it wouldn't be an issue. It's likely a cultural thing. In my culture, it's nothing unusual for a woman to actually cook and clean. However I know it's not the in thing among black and white American females.
It's likely a cultural thing. In my culture, it's nothing unusual for a woman to actually cook and clean. However I know it's not the in thing among black and white American females.
In my culture, if you are the sort of person who gets hungry, you might as well be the sort of person who knows how to feed yourself, and if you are the sort of person who dirties things, you might as well be the sort of person who cleans them up.
We both cook and we both clean. He's the better cook, though.
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