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By the way, prior to these past two break ups this year, he has been in 8 relationships with confident/aggressive/controlling women. He initiated the break up with 6 of them.
Do you really know all these women possessed all three traits? ...Highly unlikely.
You can be confident and people assume aggressive/controlling.
You can be aggressive and people assume confident/controlling.
You can be controlling and people assume confident/aggressive.
etc...you get the idea.
But it's often not the case. You can be one and not the other 2, or 2 and not the other.
Aggressive is a wide term also, in your face and starts arguments or goes after what they want with purpose?
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The point has been missed. He has been limiting his dating to these types of woman and has been complaining constantly about the fact that it never works out for him. We have been suggesting to him that he broaden his options some. Be the one who initiates things more often, etc. and/or if he does start dating women with those characteristics not to be thinking about the situations where things went wrong. He has said himself he keeps thinking the same thing will happen with a new girl and kinda dooms it himself.
The point has been missed. He has been limiting his dating to these types of woman and has been complaining constantly about the fact that it never works out for him. We have been suggesting to him that he broaden his options some. Be the one who initiates things more often, etc. and/or if he does start dating women with those characteristics not to be thinking about the situations where things went wrong. He has said himself he keeps thinking the same thing will happen with a new girl and kinda dooms it himself.
Maybe he will break out of his routine and try something new at some point.
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The point has been missed. He has been limiting his dating to these types of woman and has been complaining constantly about the fact that it never works out for him. We have been suggesting to him that he broaden his options some. Be the one who initiates things more often, etc. and/or if he does start dating women with those characteristics not to be thinking about the situations where things went wrong. He has said himself he keeps thinking the same thing will happen with a new girl and kinda dooms it himself.
So the issue isn't confident/aggressive women. The issue is your friend picks people that aren't good matches for him. Got it. Not sure what this has to do with confident women. I love them. I couldn't deal with anyone else.
I doubt he is attracted to confident/aggressive gals as it seems guys of that ilk are regarded as lap dogs since they are taking on the female role and to be female is derogatory.
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He has been texting me about all this today. He is stressing over it.
