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If someone you dated a while back can't be found on the Internet at all (Facebook, Twitter, Google +, Random websites) would you try searching again in a couple of months or just drop the idea of ever reconnecting with them (assuming that you no longer have their number and don't have their email)?
I've been searching for someone for a while but I can't find anything!
I mean, is it also safe to assume he could have lied about his job / education / background? I met this man in the UK (on a dating website, we didn't have sex. We went on three amazing dates and things fizzled out).
A couple of strange facts (imo):
- He claims he graduated high school Valedictorian (A+, A grade in most subjects - Converting to US grading for the sake of this thread).
- He said he got into a prestigious college and double-majored
- He claimed he attended another prestigious college abroad for a semester
- He claims he was brought up in France but his accent is very californian (his parents are not from California). He doesn't have a French accent at all. I mean at all. His parents are supposedly not from the US yet he sounds just like any other CA boy (LA people, obvious).
- He's also extremely good looking and gets a lot of female attention.
- He clearly comes from a wealthy background according to me (or so I think. We both were college students at the time and he would leave 20$ tips to bartenders for 6$ drinks, his clothing seemed quite expensive and he's never had a job before! Tips in Europe are not that common).
Was something off? Would it be better to forget about him?
*I'm the one who decided not to see him again*
What's so strange about your "strange facts?"
Plenty of people are valedictorians (or the equivalent). No biggie there.
People double-major at prestigious colleges quite regularly. No biggie there.
People attend college abroad while they're in prestigious (or non prestigious) colleges all the time. No biggie there.
A person who is not French and whose parents are not French isn't likely to have a French accent, even if they did live there for a time while growing up. There's not really a "Californian" accent. In fact, the only type of accent one can ascribe to California as a location is one that's seen as perfect for broadcast TV (what most would equate with a "lack" of accent). Unless you're talking about regional things like Valley accents or surfer slang, I dunno what "California" accent means. If he lived in California for a time, maybe he picked up some localisms? Again, no biggie there.
Being extremely good looking isn't unusual. Nice to see, but not unusual. Nor is it strange. No biggie there.
Having enough money to drop a few expensive tips and/or having nice clothing is not a sign of "clearly comes from a wealthy background"... and if he did, so what? You already said he lived abroad, went to a prestigious school, etc... why would it be odd if he WAS from a wealthy family? Again... NO biggie.
I'm not seeing any big mystery unless it's just that you cannot find him online. Maybe he's not into social media. Maybe he did lie about his name because he only met with you a few times and maybe his real name COULD be Googled and he wants people to like him for who he is and not who is family are.
I dunno. Did you not have his phone number or some traditional way to contact him? If it's been a while, he may already have a girlfriend or wife. I know a few people that I am SURE were giving me their correct names that cannot be found on the internet... they just really refuse to do anything with social media. I know other ways to contact them, because I know them pretty well.
I think that if you cannot find him easily, you might as well move on.
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Looking for his name on Google is not stalking and I'm the one who stopped seeing him due to personal reasons. Stalking is when you know the person's details and you keep tracking their every move. Who can you stalk someone you can't even find anywhere? Oxymoron.
By definition, stalking is tracking a person, persistently and repeatedly. You are stalking him.
Bottom line: Whether or not you pulled the plug, he is not into you. Please move on.
Alright, I Googled him once, that means I'm stalking him ... sure.
I'll let you analyze the actual definition of "stalking": "Stalking can be defined as the willful and repeated following, watching and/or harassing of another person. Unlike other crimes, which usually involve one act, stalking is a series of actions that occur over a period of time".
I've been searching for someone for a while but I can't find anything!
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Alright, I Googled him once, that means I'm stalking him ... sure.
I'll let you analyze the actual definition of "stalking": "Stalking can be defined as the willful and repeated following, watching and/or harassing of another person. Unlike other crimes, which usually involve one act, stalking is a series of actions that occur over a period of time".
How old are you? Do you have much experience moving in wealthier social circles?
All the stuff you think is weird is totally normal.
Totally.
Thank you, Red.
This OP is very perplexing, indeed. She needs to expand her social circle and meet more interesting people.
I would also suggest minimizing the whole cyberstalking tendencies....but other than that, you hit the nail on the head
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