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I agree with another it's not really her you're missing but a relationship.
You need to find way right now to keep yourself busy. Take a class or find a new hobby. Go out with friends and maybe a little vacation. Do you have women friends you could go out with for lunch or dinner. Then before you know it, you're not thinking about her anymore and now you've met someone wonderful
Four months is a long time to go without contact. You should be VERY proud of yourself!! But now look back and remember how much those first couple of hours, days, weeks SUCKED. And then it got a little easier, right? Four months in, you've broken the habit. Of course, you still think about her from time to time, but the pain is less. Right? And that is a GOOD thing. PLEASE DO NOT CONTACT HER. You will restart the clock of healing. Don't do that to yourself. You've come so far!!!! Don't undo the healing that your heart has done.
An eight yr relationship is a LONG relationship. It's not going to be "all better" in four months, but at the very least you're FOUR MONTHS CLOSER to healing.
You need to either go on vacation and act irresponsibly, or meet new people, and forget about it. All I had to read was she treated you like poo, and that you were thinking...and I stopped. Why? Because there is no need to read further. So get on the horse, and have fun, you should celebrate her departure.
The bold is so true. Had to do the same thing when I had a hard time getting over an ex. I'm lucky I was able to keep my job during those three months, because I was acting very irresponsibly. It worked though and I was able to get over my ex, for good!
Listen guys and girls....I'd like to say thanks for your replies. This internet thing is amazing and amazing more so that people take the time to read and reply. There are some bloody good people in the world. I am not as bad as I once was with this break up. In fact I know it is not her I am missing but the relationship. Missing the situation of being in a relationship.
I had the opportunity to date one girl in recent weeks but a couple of RED FLAGS put me off. I am not so weak anymore that I will settle for a psycho just to be with someone. I want to meet someone as I want to have kids and often feel time is slipping away. That's probably my main issue of hurriedness in finding someone. Hopefully it will happen soon when I least expect it. But again, thanks so much for your kind words all!
One or two mentioned getting therapy but in my opinion the internet is therapy itself in a way. Kind words and reassuring words go a long way.
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