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I'd like to say toast, but I burned some a few nights ago. In all my relationships I did nothing wrong, it's the women who had the issues and therefore they hAd to be discarded.
Being too forgiving, too trusting and too tolerant (basically being a doormat). It doesn't really fit with the premise of this thread though, because I'd rather be alone than be a doormat.
I totally stole this question from Lilac110. I thought it deserved its own thread .
Her whole question ended with, '...for fear of dying alone,' but that did not fit in the length limit for thread titles!
Heh! I was wondering if someone was going to make a thread from that.
When I was younger, I screwed up by getting bent about things like porn (unless I was watching with him), strip clubs, pictures of ex-girlfriends, prior sexual experience and history, prior "mischievous" behavior (I actually got upset that someone had gone skinny-dipping with a group of people a few years before he met me)--basically anything having to do with a woman or woman's body that wasn't me or mine.
In retrospect, it made no sense at all, because the guys I've been with were never over the top with any of those things. And not for nothing, but I dated the kind of guys about whom my friends would say, "Where did you find this guy? He's awesome and it's so obvious he's crazy about you."
Nothing to be threatened by but my own imagination, but it was an issue between myself and some really good guys.
I wish I could say that I grew out of it naturally, but it took someone committing himself to me via marriage. Once I was married, the light came on, "He loves you enough to dedicate his life to you and promise you forever. What the hell more do you want from a man? You have his heart. Who cares about his eyes and his memories?"
That's the point I try to make to the wives and girlfriends who come on here complaining about men looking at porn. You have the important thing--his heart. Let him have his fantasies and his past, and go look at some porn, yourself. You might learn something.
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Heh! I was wondering if someone was going to make a thread from that.
When I was younger, I screwed up by getting bent about things like porn (unless I was watching with him), strip clubs, pictures of ex-girlfriends, prior sexual experience and history, prior "mischievous" behavior (I actually got upset that someone had gone skinny-dipping with a group of people a few years before he met me)--basically anything having to do with a woman or woman's body that wasn't me or mine.
In retrospect, it made no sense at all, because the guys I've been with were never over the top with any of those things. And not for nothing, but I dated the kind of guys about whom my friends would say, "Where did you find this guy? He's awesome and it's so obvious he's crazy about you."
Nothing to be threatened by but my own imagination, but it was an issue between myself and some really good guys.
I wish I could say that I grew out of it naturally, but it took someone committing himself to me via marriage. Once I was married, the light came on, "He loves you enough to dedicate his life to you and promise you forever. What the hell more do you want from a man? You have his heart. Who cares about his eyes and his memories?"
That's the point I try to make to the wives and girlfriends who come on here complaining about men looking at porn. You have the important thing--his heart. Let him have his fantasies and his past, and go look at some porn, yourself. You might learn something.
Now you're going to have more guys wanting to marry you.
I was too afraid to tell the guy I fell extremely hard for my true feelings.
He showed many signs of being interested in me and even wanted to talk about something important with me, which I already new was related to me and him, but I chickened out. I tried to "spit game" as my cousin called it with another dude, I didn't even like when I was younger. Other than that, my only issue with romance is that it is always one sided.
I would say I would not allow myself to develop feelings for someone I haven't met face to face, but I can't really control my feelings. I just really go by how other people's experiences are in relationships, so I know not to make the same mistakes they made. Of course when or if I do get into a relationship one day I am quite sure I am going to make quite a few mistakes, but one of main things about being in a relationship is growing together/ helping one another.
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Never is a long time.
But probably put up with a sexually unsatisfying relationship because I was in love with and best friends with the person I was dating.
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