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I'm a 19 year old female, entering sophomore year in college this August. I never had boyfriend throughout my whole school years, never even kissed. I'll admit and say I wasn't as "pretty" ( or less ugly) in HS as I am now, but still. I'm a nice person, as I've been told, and I pretty much just talk to anyone and sometimes help them out in the college courses ( share my notes, tutor them, etc). I recently completed a summer course, during which I met a friend of a friend, who had some interest in me. At first, I had no physical attraction to him , but I could feel some emotional connection. Long story short, the guy won me over with his personality and I had my first kiss and make out session with him. After said session, the guy seemed distant and only invited me out with other people. I confronted him the other day, and he confessed that he just wanted to stay friends....( even after he kept touching me to elicit an escalated sexual response but I had stopped him due to my own self-respect). I have stopped all contact with him.
I'm 5 foot 6, have curly hair, a light tan complexion, and weigh 120 lbs. I've noticed guys look at me ( in college and elsewhere, but none ever approach). Some have stared or smiled back and I do smile back but then... nothing. I speak both English and Spanish ( I live in Puerto Rico) and I feel more comfortable with English. I believe a lot of the guys that have noticed me have heard me speak in English. Most people in my college know English on a basic to intermediate level. Should I stop speaking so much English? Is that scaring them away?
Also, can it be the I am making myself unapproachable? This semester I spent my hours between classes studying for my biology course (I'm doing pre-med) so I could get the highest grades and become a tutor this August. Was I closing myself off from the dating world? I don't think I'm that hideous to not attract many guys, but to never have guys approach me really takes a toll on me. Here's my instagram so you can see me: Instagram
or just one of the selfies posted: Instagram
Well, you look normal . Have you ever attempted to flirt or approach a guy on campus? This should be much easier while you're in college, given that you're working so closely with other male students.
I've had abut 3 crushes this year and all of them had girlfriends. One of them broke it off with his, and started texting me. But..I can see he's not really interested.
I guess I fear being rejected or seen as not attractive enough to talk to them in them in them first place.
How is approaching different from talking to almost every guy in your class?
Well, since you're in this somewhat desperate predicament, maybe you need to start doing the asking. Have you ever asked a guy to hang out or go out somewhere?
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. Have you ever attempted to flirt or approach a guy on campus? This should be much easier while you're in college, given that you're working so closely with other male students.
